“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” ~ Sam Keen.
Isn’t it wonderful to meet someone who understands you?
There is mutual love, trust, and respect between you. It feels incredible to have someone who just gets you, right?
And it should be that way between those who have real feelings for each other. You feel at home and peace with your significant other.
It should always be like this.
It may take time for you to find the right one for you. You may have to meet many people before meeting the right partner, but the time is worth it.
When you meet the right one for you, you will know.
These are the three signs you have found the right one for you.
These signs are super important.
1# You Refuse To Give Up On Each Other…
You don’t give up easily without fighting for each other, I know it sounds cliche, but it’s true. You never let any small issues ruin your best relationship with your significant other.
You choose love over hate.
If there is any misunderstanding, you will ask questions to clarify any confusion instead of lashing out immediately (because you didn’t understand it at first).
You don’t want to let hate win over love. You let love triumph hate. It’s really hard to be mad at the one you love.
You are able to say,
“I don’t want to lose you. You mean a lot to me.”
It can make you emotional when you see someone fighting for both of you. It may be because you probably never had anyone care about you as much as your significant other, AKA soulmate.
You refuse to give up on each other because you love each other so much. You have a lot of things in common. It’s because you never forget how they make you feel deep inside.
Tough times may pass, but love stays forever. It’s rare to be loyal these days, where most people give up quickly as soon as any little challenge happens in a relationship (I just don’t get it)
2# Both of You Become A Better Person After Every Argument…
The truth is, you don’t like arguing with each other. You are willing to forgive easily as long as both of you become a better person after every tough argument.
Sometimes arguing can be a good thing: It helps you to understand each other better. You get to know each other on a deeper level. The fight helps to strengthen the bond between you two.
It can only be a toxic relationship if you guys are constantly fighting without improving for the better. It only worsens because you keep disrespecting each other without trying to understand the main core of the issue.
It becomes a healthy argument when you both can admit your mistakes, saying:
“I am sorry. I love you. Let’s fix this. I don’t want to lose you. You’re wonderful.”
— How many people can be as honest these days?
Your ego can ruin the best relationships that you have ever had.
(It’s not always the case as your ego tries to protect you from dangerous situations sometimes)
Being full of pride will make you lonely for a long time. Generally speaking, it can cost you meaningful relationships if you cannot admit your mistakes and learn from them.
It doesn’t get worse. It only gets better, but you have to open your mind to the harsh truth if you want to grow into a better human being 🙂
The two of you need the willingness to change.
3# You Guys Have Empathy For Each Other…
You two are willing to listen without interrupting each other. You are sensitive to each other’s pain and have no problem showing your emotional side to each other: It’s what makes you beautiful.
You don’t see each other’s vulnerability as a weakness; in fact, you fall deeper in love with them because of their raw emotions.
If you hurt each other, you will feel extreme regret. It’s hard to sleep at night knowing you have hurt each other. You guys are always there for each other no matter how difficult times can be. You feel heard and seen by the one you love.
You have empathy for each other, which makes you feel less alone in this world because you have someone who is always there for you when you feel sad. It’s hard to see the person you love being in pain.
Life becomes easier when you have someone by your side. You want to bring a smile to their face. You don’t want anything bad happening to the one you love.
The Final Insights.
Someone out there has the same goals in life as you. There is someone who wants the same thing as you. You may give up on love, but everything can change overnight.
My advice to you is this: Avoid people who make you feel like you are never good enough. You should be with someone who gives you space to be yourself without feeling unfairly judged.
True love is when you never give up on each other and the desire to become a better person after tough times + have empathy for each other
What does your heart tell you? If you are with the wrong person, you will experience feeling alone and confused all day. If you are with the right person, you are more blessed than you think as long as the relationship is meaningful.
You will feel seen and heard if you are with the right person. You feel happier being with someone who makes you feel less alone in their thoughts.
A healthy relationship with your partner (or anyone in your life) doesn’t last without work behind the scenes.
It only takes two people to make it work.
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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