Ah, men! As women, we assume that we know everything there is to know about men and they aren’t complicated, are they?
Well, that’s what I assumed anyway. That was until I took the plunge into marriage, and boy was I in for a rude awakening. I know you must be thinking, “Well that won’t happen to me, I’ve known my fiancee for years.” You’d be surprised at what living together as a married couple can do to your relationship. There’s a lot of adjusting and compromising that needs to be done to keep things flowing in the right direction. I for one would have loved to have a little more information before I set out to get married. It would have made things a whole lot easier for both of us. So, without further ado, read below to find seven things I wish I had known about men before I married one.
1. Men Hate Fights
Fights are a common part of any relationship. In fact, in some relationships conflicts can define the people and the relationship. My partner has found a way to sidestep the fight at hand quietly without letting me know. Sometimes this works and the heat of the moment quickly passes. But not with all men, however, as each individual has varying degrees of success with this technique.
2. Men Love To Work
While I was always aware that my partner took his job seriously, only after getting married did it truly become clear. His bringing work home was a struggle for me as I felt a little neglected. Through a process of trial and error, we worked out a system where he could still fulfill his role as a manager without bringing too much work home.
3. Men Can Be Sensitive
Yes, even your rugged, tough guy, with abs of steel has a sensitive side. He may not cry that often or pick flowers from a garden, but every man has a few things that they care deeply about. And it is possible for us to offend them.
4. Men Like Specific Details
When communicating relevant information, men prefer getting straight to the chase. Instructions on feeding the baby, or on getting the car fixed don’t require the background story. Men tend to get distracted quite easily making effective communication crucial. In extreme cases, it can lead to uninvolved parenting, a major parenting pitfall. Fortunately, I learned how to change my methods of communication to suit his requirements. This system has worked quite well for both of us.
5. Men Love Money
Women have a reputation for being a little more carefree about spending money than men. Odds are even if you’d both been transparent about your spending habits, it will become clearer to the two of you now. I never knew just how thrifty my husband was!
6. Men Are Intuitive Too
Women tend to be labeled as the intuitive ones. However, men also possess these characteristics. They are also more caring than most women will admit. My husband can sense when I’m not in the best of moods or I’ve had a rough day and will try his hardest to help me out. Even making a small cup of my favorite tea, can help soothe my nerves. More often than not the thought itself does more to lift my mood than the act.
7. Men Must Be Themselves
Even if your partner could never seem to get enough of you—post marriage, he will need his own space. Whether that means going to a sports event with his best friends or staying in the garage working on his favorite bike—men need time to do their own thing. Initially, this worried me—I took personal offense to the fact that my husband would rather spend time with his friends than with me. But, I know that I need to step away sometimes.
Marriage can be more challenging than anyone will care to admit. Just like any other relationship, there is bound to be a lot of friction and a lot of cringe-worthy moments, but there are also a lot of sweet moments that make it all worth it. Marriage helped open my eyes to the real person my husband was, and fortunately, he was even better than I imagined. Through a lot of effort and a little love, we fell even more madly in love with each other.
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