I have seen a sentence: The love between men and women, is not so deep from the beginning, it needs to be accumulated bit by bit.
Women in love, are usually influenced by their emotions, they long for a man to bring them happiness and security.
Men tend to be more rational. What they want more is these things than romance and vows.
01 Trust and understanding
In real life, many relationships are lost not to extramarital affairs, but to endless suspicion.
If a woman always suspects that the other half has an affair with others, and is always entangled with questions, no matter how deep the relationship will be, sooner or later, it will be exhausted.
Tolstoy once said, “If there is anything worse in the world than pain, it is doubt.”
If you love each other deeply, you should trust each other and this relationship, and don’t let your loved ones chill because of your thoughts.
For a man, working hard every day will inevitably have intersections with the opposite sex, but if he has you in his heart, he will consciously keep a distance from the opposite sex, because he does not want to see you sad.
If you don’t trust him at all, never put yourself in his shoes and understand him, hold on to the slightest thing, even look at his phone secretly, and always press him about who he is related to, this will only make him feel tired.
To know that if a man has no feelings for you, and even has an extra-marital lover, then no matter how much you question him, he will still be able to fool him.
Only those who truly love you will never lie to you. So, don’t let a good marriage life go to waste just because of a little suspicion.
02 Recognition and affirmation
Haruki Murakami has a famous saying: “For those who love each other, the heart of the other party is the best house.”
For a man, the recognition and affirmation of the other half are the most effective cardiotonic.
As the saying goes: “Those who know how to love will always have sugar in their pockets, not big truths.”
If you want the relationship to continue to heat up, praise and encouragement to your partner must be indispensable. Every fluffy compliment will make the other half feel affirmed.
If you are always critical of each other, complaining and blaming each other’s deficiencies, it will only damage the other’s self-confidence. Make the other person lose their motivation to do things.
Everyone hopes that the person they love can see the best side of themselves, and hope to get a compliment from the other party.
Every affirmation and compliment from you makes him feel respected and cherished.
If you love someone from your heart, don’t be stingy with your praise, a little more praise, a little more encouragement, and a little more warmth in your feelings.
03 Sincerity and loyalty
Sincerity and loyalty are the most important things than short-term happiness and excitement in a relationship.
Everyone hopes that they can meet the love of a lifetime, and they all hope that they are the only ones in each other’s hearts.
If you love someone, you must give them 100% sincerity. Since you have chosen the other person, you must have the determination to never give up, and the sincerity to stay together for the rest of your life.
Not everyone is so lucky to meet someone who is wholeheartedly good to themselves.
If you like him, you must convey your feelings well and let the other party know that you have him in your heart, not just hanging him and playing with him.
If you love someone, you must speak out bravely and open up your hearts to each other so that you can enter each other’s hearts.
The feelings between people have always been mutual, and there is no secret to being able to know each other until the end of life.
Two people who love each other, as long as they can spend more time with each other, and are willing to give each other more tolerance, more understanding, more affirmation, and more trust, can avoid many misunderstandings and reduce many unnecessary entanglements. Such a relationship can go further.
Whether it’s love or marriage, a good relationship must be a two-man game, not a one-man show.
People who want to live a good life must be willing to give their other half these things.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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