A friend recently shared a secret with me about her relationship with her husband. Back when they were dating, their first kiss wasn’t just bad… it was terrible. It made her question if they were meant to be together.
To be honest, I was surprised. And not just because they seem to have great chemistry, but because another woman had told me a similar story. Was I surrounded by women who had bad physical relationships with their partner, and I just didn’t know it? Or had they grown their connection over time, and were now happy with it?
In my personal life, I’d stopped dating someone because I wanted to give our physical chemistry a chance to grow. But after a month and plenty of feedback, I called it quits. I figured we didn’t have enough in common, sexually or otherwise, to make it work.
All of these experiences made me wonder: can romantic and/or sexual chemistry grow over time?
I started to ask friends the question, and their answers fell into two camps:
- If your body doesn’t like their body, it’s trying to tell you something. You’re not meant to be together.
- If you really like them as a person, the chemistry can grow.
I wanted more answers, so I posed the question to my Instagram audience and shared their answers in my stories. You can see all of them here. I reccomend checking it out, they’re super thoughtful.
If you’d prefer to listen rather than read, you can check out my Youtube summary of the experiment below.
What do you think? Can chemistry grow over time?
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