We’re talking about taking strolls down the beach, going to the movies, and laughing so hard that your sides hurt at your go-to joke.
But of course, maintaining connections takes a lot of effort too! The most successful romantic partnerships are the ones in which both partners are prepared to put in the effort and demonstrate their dedication to bringing the relationship forward. And one of the most significant barriers to progress is the inability to communicate effectively in relationships.
Sometimes it looks like they don’t get you. Or perhaps you are perplexed as to why you are unable to address that one difficult problem head-on without it escalating into a quarrel.
Problems involving communication are rarely intractable. There are instances when all that is required to get a relationship back on track again is a few straightforward adjustments. How many communication problems in a relationship be resolved? Check out our list of the top 10 causes of communication problems in marriage, and read on for in-depth information about how to improve both your relationship and your communication:
A bad dose of screen time
Phones are quite convenient. And we are huge fans of Netflix. On the other hand, spending an excessive amount of time in front of a screen can lead to difficulties in communicating inside a marriage. If you’re scrolling through Facebook or selecting the browse button on your preferred streaming service while you’re with your spouse, it might be difficult to be present at the moment. Unplug your devices every once in a while and give them your undivided focus.
Poor listening skills
The most common reason for communication issues in a marriage is a spouse who is not a good listener. Frustration and misunderstandings are bound to ensue if one of you does not feel heard of validated or does not grasp what the other is attempting to get through. Active listening is a better use of your time than sitting about waiting for your turn to talk.
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Pay close attention to what your conversational partner has to say, then, without passing judgment or making accusations, paraphrase what they’ve said to you in your own words. You will gain a better understanding of what they are trying to convey, and they will have the sensation of having been heard; in return, invite them to do the same for you.
Casual jealousy
Jealousy is one of the issues that might arise in a relationship. Casual jealousy is what occurs when you wonder who the sender of every text is or when you feel envious because you spotted the person in question laughing with another person.
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Harsh words
How can couples increase their ability to communicate with one another? To get started, you should refrain from accusing your partner. When someone is insulting you, it can be difficult to listen to what they have to say. It is more challenging to understand the true significance of the message when it is couched in harsh language. After all, when they feel like they are being accused, the majority of individuals immediately go into defense mode. If you want to tackle communication problems in your relationship as well as other problems related to your relationship, try speaking more gently.
Expectations that cannot be met
There are times when our partners are unable to fully understand what we are thinking or feeling. And there are times when they simply are unable to devote as much attention to the connection as we would like because, well, life gets in the way sometimes. If you’re having trouble communicating with your partner in a committed relationship or marriage, you may need to adjust your expectations.
Hiding feelings
Being open and honest about how you feel is the cornerstone of effective communication. If one of you is not being truthful about the situation, it will be difficult to find a solution to the problem or to make progress with it. Instead of trying to hide your feelings or ignoring them, make a covenant with one another to be honest with one another and to deal with your emotions together.
Putting the onus of responsibility on them for us
Nobody else is to blame for the ideas and emotions that we experience. Frustration and the strain of carrying the weight of all of those expectations will make it difficult for you and your relationship to communicate effectively if you make it your partner’s responsibility to keep you happy. Take responsibility for your emotions so that you can respond to them with grace and honesty.
Take measures to address your own emotional needs and practice good self-care to solve many of the issues that arise in relationship communication. This will allow you to speak with your partner from a place of strength, which will benefit both of you.
The inability to speak their love language
Everyone has their unique way of expressing love. If you and your spouse can communicate effectively using the love language that each of you uses, your relationship will flourish. Perhaps they are receptive to being complimented or enjoy having things hashed out verbally. They may take pleasure in getting tokens of your thoughtfulness in the form of tiny presents or other mementos. Certain persons respond best to assist in a more tangible form, such as assistance with chores. Learning to speak and comprehend their language will allow you to communicate more effectively with them.
Maintaining a tally
Keeping score in any relationship, whether it be of the money spent, the duties completed, or a list of previous wrongs is detrimental to the health of the connection. If you get the feeling that your offenses are being recorded on some sort of cosmic tally sheet, it is difficult to communicate effectively. Stop keeping score and concentrate entirely on the topic at hand if you want the communications you have with people to be sincere, kind, and beneficial.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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