Self-confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how awesome you are if you can’t see it yourself?
One of the most common barriers to gaining confidence is needing constant validation. Stop seeking approval or validation and comparing yourself to others. One of the worst things you can do to really deflate your confidence is to compare yourself with other people.
Comparing yourself to someone else who might be better at communicating or conversation won’t do anything for you … it most likely will do the opposite. You might feel angry or jealous. We’re all on different levels of learning and it’s so easy to see someone else’s final product, but we never see how much work they’ve put into themselves.
We compare ourselves to others in an attempt to make accurate evaluations of ourselves.
Comparing yourself to others doesn’t help you attain your goals in life, especially on your journey to being a great communicator. Thinking or obsessing about how someone else is a better or more successful will always zap your motivation. It reduces your chances of completing your goal and kill your positive energy.
People can see how confident you are by observing your body language, your face, demeanor, and tone.
The way you carry yourself, how you react to a situation and your presence in a room will say a lot about you to others. Your overall demeanor and appearance in most situations mean more than the amount of money in your bank account.
Nonverbal communication can reveal more than words, and show how we really feel, even though we say something opposite than our true feelings.
Through nonverbal cues, we unconsciously communicate a great deal of information about ourselves and what we’re thinking. The movements we make, the position in which we hold our bodies, the expressions on our faces and the nonverbal qualities of our speech – all contribute to how others view us.
Knowing these are factors in conversation with people, this will help you be aware of your non-verbal cues.
Be more attractive by Improving Your Nonverbal Skills and Read Body Language
Our nonverbal communication—our facial expressions, gestures, eye contact, posture, and tone of voice—that speak the loudest.
Here Are 4 Body Language Strategies to make you more Attractive:
1. Be aware of what you’re feeling and your own body language
2. Pay attention to what you’re saying, the words you’re using and actions
3. Maintain eye contact, but not too much.
4. Take a breather if you’re overwhelmed by stress.
If you want to become a better communicator, it’s important to become more sensitive to the body language and nonverbal cues of others, especially your own.
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