D-Day and STDs

One man on r/adultery told his tale of woe:

“So, the day I hoped would never come, has arrived on my door.

I cheated. I got chlamydia. I have had contact with my wife, so there really is no option but to tell her.

I don’t want sympathy. I don’t want anything. I made this mess. I have to own it.

Any advice going forward? I’m going to reap what I sow. My wife is entitled to whatever course of action she chooses from here.”

The adultery veterans chimed in:

Full disclosure. Don’t lie. Rip the bandaid off. She can get sick and lose fertility. Women can be asymptomatic for a long time while it does damage.
For fucks sake, wear a rubber!
I feel for your wife. I got it from a cheating boyfriend. I haven’t had sex with my husband in over 4 years. So, if I get an STI, it’s my problem. Takes a special someone to go unprotected with randoms while having sex with your spouse.
Advice for the future is getting an STI panel (for yourself and AP) before going raw.
Let the initial anger/meltdown happen. She will have a million questions. Own it. Answer her questions once… succinctly. Then move on… you can’t keep revisiting the past.
The marriage you had is over. I don’t believe that there can be forgiveness. Let alone reconciliation. It’s too broken to repair. We cheaters understand this when we start. And if we don’t, we should.
Don’t tell her it was “only sex” if it wasn’t. Answer the WHY questions. You will have to answer the WHY questions over and over again.
If she suggests counseling, go with your tail between your legs.
Update us after your wife takes EVERYTHING from you and leaves you broke as fuck.
This is why I use condoms. My advice for you is to brace for impact, and hope you make it out alive with your nuts intact.
Divorce is imminent.
I have sympathy for you. If your marriage is as bad as mine, I understand why you needed to go elsewhere. I have no advice, but I wish you the best.
Let the chips fall where they may. Good luck. This will be a very difficult conversation.
Fake your own death. (OMG! This has to be a sick joke.)

The guy is cooked.

No one even hopes they will stay together and “work things out.” Getting an unwanted, potentially life-changing STD changes everything. It destroys your belief in people.