How Online Dating Makes You Question Your Worth

Looking for someone who wants the same thing on dating Apps is the same as finding a better job.

You might swipe all day long and still end up with a time waster.

I used to see the online dating world as a positive thing — simply because my partner and I met online and made it work. But that’s certainly not the case for everybody.

I’d like to think we’re just lucky.

I’ve had some friends back home who’ve been on Tinder for years and are still exactly at the same place — swiping and hoping to find a good one.

The impact of using the App for years can wreck you mentally. One of them told me,

“At this point, I don’t know what’s good and what’s bad anymore.”

People lost touch with their standards.

What’s worse about it all is how they see themselves now. We all know one or two bad dating experiences don’t mean your whole love life is screwed.

But what if it keeps happening? like you live in a cycle.

Every person that matched with you ended up being either a distraction or a time waster.

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I’ve been trying to break through into freelancing since January.

I sent hundreds of pitches but all I heard was cricket or a long email explaining why my idea isn’t fit for them.

While I’m not giving up yet, I started questioning my worth and the whole journey that I’m in.

“Were my ideas THAT bad?”

“Why do I keep bothering trying when it always ends up with the same answer”

“Am I good enough for this job?”

So many insecurities. So many mental breakdowns.

The same way in dating, when you keep meeting someone who’s bad for you, it makes you lose hope.

Online dating has made it harder for us to love ourselves. That’s just the truth.

But if there’s something you can do right now to protect your mental health is to give it a break. Delete the App and focus on something else.

I’ve been deleting many Apps lately because I realized they didn’t make me feel better about myself.

Look, dating Apps won’t go anywhere — in fact, there will be something new every year.

So don’t even think about the feeling of missing out because you won’t.

Giving yourself a break from online dating can give you space to breathe. To relearn your beliefs about love. To actually appreciate yourself for even trying.

Because at the end of the day, you can never build a healthy relationship when don’t know your worth.

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