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Maybe you went into the quarantine with a love interest already who is now “long-distance.”
Or maybe you just met someone online during isolation.
Either way, my guess is you want it to actually go somewhere and not fizzle out during this time while you can’t see each other.
So how do you keep the momentum going? Today’s brand spanking new video (woohoo) shows you exactly that, with something blindingly obvious that 99% of people are not using to their advantage.
If you feel like you had a connection with someone, but now you’re worried you’re becoming invisible to him, the advice in today’s video is for you.
And if you just met, this will make you stand out from anyone else he may be talking to. Once you try this, your voice will be a burst of color in a sea of gray interactions. And to help illustrate my point, I’ve taken us back to the 1920s…
Stay strong, friend.
Transcript provided by YouTube:
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dating today is making people invisible
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people meet online or through an app
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they exchange messages through an app
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they then graduate to exchanging phone
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numbers they begin texting and most
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people never graduate from that point
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and if you think about it all of these
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exchanges are all happening on the
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screen through texts this is making
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people invisible because it’s really
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hard to compete with everybody else when
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everyone’s doing the same thing how do
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you stand out in a world like that I
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think there is a resource that is so
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underutilized it is ridiculous that
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would enable you to stand out to truly
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make a connection and to make yourself
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much harder to ignore the voice note
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imagine that someone says your message
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that says how are you and you write back
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I’m good I just left the movies with my
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friends what you up to let’s find this
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kind of message that most people send
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it’s not that funny entertaining it
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doesn’t matter even if it was because at
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the end of the day it’s still just a
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text message someone doesn’t really feel
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like they’re getting to know us they’re
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getting to know the text version of us
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but if someone sent us a message that
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said how are you and instead of sending
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a text message you literally picked up
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the phone hit the voice note button and
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said hey it’s good to hear from you I’m
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good
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I just left the movies with my friends
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we saw that movie the mr. Rogers movie
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it’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood
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I don’t know if you’ve seen it but well
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I may have cried a little bit or a lot
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but I’m on my way home now what are you
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up to how’s your night in that moment
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think about how much I’ve done I want
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you to think about voice notes in three
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different benefit categories number one
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it’s different it’s different everyone
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else is texting in a sea of grey text
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messages your voice represents color it
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leaps off the screen and into someone’s
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ear you’re literally attacking a
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different sense than everybody else
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voice
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on the telephone secondly you can say a
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lot more think about how much more
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nuance how much more context how much
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more of myself I was able to show in
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that twenty seconds which is probably
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shorter than it takes most people to
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write a text message and number three we
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get across our humanity a real micro
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personality moments those moments where
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we have a little nervous laugh where we
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haven’t slightly awkward silence or an
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unknown are where we’re trying to figure
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out what to say next or a moment where
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we say that movie made me cry a little
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bit or a lot we’re showing ourselves our
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humanity and I don’t care how great your
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writing is in a short text message that
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is impossible to get across I’m not
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saying you should leave a voice message
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in response to everything someone sends
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you that would be annoying and it would
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miss the point the point is the contrast
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once in a while instead of sending a
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message send a voice note let them get a
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taste of who you really are and what you
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really sound like because today
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connection is the game everybody has
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options everybody can get online and
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speak to another ten people but when you
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can actually connect with someone you’re
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using the greatest asset you have and
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that is you people on a screen are
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replaceable but the one thing someone
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cannot replace is you but the asset that
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is you will never come across if you’re
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not willing to make yourself visible or
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audible in three dimensions instead of
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what everyone else is doing which is
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texting in two dimensions as it just me
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or do we look fantastic
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you
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