Remember, with all of these techniques, consent is important. Stop if your date is not into it, regardless of whether there is an explicit “no”. Go slowly, and always give your partner a chance to say no.
1. Triangular Gazing
You gaze back and forth between her eyes and her lips. And repeat.
Slowly, sensually. It should not be super obvious. Although it should be obvious enough that she understands what you’re feeling like.
As you look into her eyes and her lips, you want to be thinking about the kiss.
She’ll usually follow that vibe and you can gradually lean in for the kiss unless she gives you a negative signal not to.
A famous Hollywood move.
2. Eskimo Kiss
You ask your date if she wants to do the Eskimo kiss.
She knows what it’s about. It’s basically your two noses touching in a funny, goofy way.
But it signals to her that you want to be more intimate and that you’re thinking about kissing.
It’s a not very risky move to “test the water” and see if she’s into kissing you.
If she wants to do the Eskimo kiss, it’s a good indicator that she likes you and probably feels comfortable and attracted enough to kiss.
You can kiss her right then if you feel like it. Or just pull back and later go for the kiss with the added confidence and comfort you’ve established.
3. Forehead to Forehead
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Another version of the Eskimo kiss is the forehead-to-forehead.
You just lean forward and do forehead-to-forehead as shown in the picture.
It’s obvious that you’re not going for the kiss but it gets the two of you closer and in a more comfortable position to kiss.
4. Eyes Closed Kiss
You say “Close your eyes, I want to show you something”.
And then once she’s closed her eyes, slowly go for the kiss.
You want to use it when you can tell she likes you but she seems nervous or hesitant about kissing for a reason you can’t identify.
She sends you all the signals that she’s into you, for instance holding hands, hugging, kissing on the cheek, etc… but she won’t kiss you.
It’s understandable as kissing has such a heavy meaning in our Western society. But by closing your eyes, you let the pressure go and create a romantic bubble where the two of you can kiss.
A bubble where she won’t feel judged for kissing you. But of course, go for the kiss slowly to give her a chance to say no if she really doesn’t feel like kissing you.
French techniques 🇫🇷
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I’m French.
So I’ve also heard of “French” techniques from dating coaches.
5. French “La Bise”
In France, we kiss between 2 and 4 times on the cheek to say “Hi”.
But we never know exactly how much with a new person.
So if you’re going for 2, but the other person goes for 3. You’re going to pull back when he or she goes in for another kiss.
When this happens, the person ends up surprising you by giving you a peck. A funny situation that happens all the time in France.
The idea is to explain this to your date and demonstrate it. Only you would not kiss her at the end but she would understand the concept and it helps build some closeness and intimacy.
A few minutes later. go for the kiss if you feel like it.
6. “Have you ever had a Real French Kiss?”
This one is a bit more straightforward.
During a date, if the conversation goes well and you can tell your date likes you. You can ask her, straight, while looking into her eyes if she’s ever experienced a “real French kiss”.
Most of the time your date will answer “No, I haven’t.”
She will usually look at your lips (good sign) and then you can go for it.
Of course, if you see that she’s not into it at all. Do not try.
This “technique” builds up a lot of seductive tension if your date likes you back.
When not to go for the kiss
- If your date is in a familiar environment with friends or colleagues around. It might make her feel uncomfortable.
- If you see she is not receptive and there is no connection between the two of you.
- If she tells you she doesn’t like kissing or if she is in some kind of relationship and thus doesn’t want to kiss you (yet).
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I hope these “techniques” I’ve learned from dating coaches will make it less difficult for you to try to kiss your crush.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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