Maybe your actions or inaction have led your partner to believe they are no longer special to you, and thus no longer deserving of the effort required for a passionate relationship.
It might seem like hard work and an uphill battle to make things better. But it doesn’t have to be.
You just need to find the magic that you once had with your partner. Embrace those special moments you once shared and reinvent them.
Think about all the little things that turned your partner on or that they loved doing with you. And then reintroduce those special things back into your relationship and see how your partner reacts.
You’ll be surprised by the positive reaction you get from your partner. Those slight changes will go a long way in rekindling your relationship. And you very well could find the passion you lost with them.
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More Tips for Reigniting a Stagnant Relationship
- Get intimate. Make time for intimacy. No time is too small. If you’ve both lost the desire for intimacy, try to rekindle it in as many ways as possible. Try holding their hand more often, rubbing their shoulders, or a full-on make-out session. The key here is novelty and spontaneity — so if something isn’t working for you, try something different.
- Go on a spontaneous date. Don’t wait until your anniversary to take your partner out for a special meal or experience. You want to keep each other interested and inspired — so plan a date night with that in mind.
- Be prepared. Because you may not see instant results, even though going on fresh adventures together is fun. But the rewards will come with time and a revived effort.
- Remember why you fell in love with each other — and work at maintaining that spark for as long as possible. It’s never too late to renew the magic you once had.
You just have to put in the effort and dedication required for making your relationship work.
Because the truth is: relationships take a lot of hard work to succeed.
Although there may be things your partner could do too, this article isn’t for them. It’s for you.
So take accountability for your behavior and concentrate on what you can do first.
And if all goes well, then your partner will feel revitalized, excited about the relationship, and start doing things again that made it feel special.
Just don’t give up and don’t be afraid to grow and evolve together. You’ll likely find that spark again if you’re willing to do the work.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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