Men Out Here Tryna Be More ‘Alpha’

This video made the rounds again on my feed, and once again I watched it start to finish no less than three times.

The day I first saw this was the day I low-key fell in love with Tom Holland. I’m guessing it was also the day Zendaya decided she was going to marry him.

Tom Holland, dressed as a woman, is more masculine than 90% of men out there. His ability to cross dress confidently, entertain us, make us laugh, and make us all jealous of Zendaya is next level.

All while being somewhere between 5’6″ and 5’8″, and married to a woman who is 5’10”. There goes your six foot excuse for not finding a partner.

I have a strong preference for shorter (confident!) men anyway, so he’s already on my list, but I’ll tell you this much — even without the money — women would be fighting over him. It ain’t the money/fame, y’all.

What Tom Holland gets so right

Tom carries himself with a quiet confidence. There’s nothing big or loud about him, yet that’s what makes him stand out. Pulling off the Rihanna lip sync shows his willingness to go all in, no pride, no shame. Just fun. Playful. Open.

He has no problem being vulnerable. He often talks about mental health, pressures of fame, and the importance of asking for help. That is sexy on a whole different plane.

So if you’re a man and you’re following Andrew Tate or other men in the “alpha” manosphere who believe “might makes right”, that women don’t know their own minds, and that forcing women to bend to your will is the way to find a partner, knock it off.

You’re single because Andrew Tate has taught you to hate women. He’s taught you that women are lesser than you. That they should serve you. That you should cage a woman to earn her affections.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but that’s not love, it’s Stockholm syndrome, and the reason multiple countries are trying to lock him up.

None of his behavior or advice is compatible with the deep love you’re seeking. None of those behaviors will create the admiration that you want to see in her eyes when she looks at you. And it will never be the stable kind of love that keeps you warm at night.

If you really want to find a partner — an equal partner — you should be studying Tom Holland. I generally don’t get celebrity crushes, but in this case I’ll make an exception.

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I have turned my rough beginnings as a teenaged welfare mom into motivation to get educated (B.S., M.S.) and into a successful career. Now the mother of four adults, and grandmother of two littles, I work in Corporate America but write blog style articles on the many things I’ve learned about Relationships, Sex, Money, and Life in general mostly for my own healing.