“If my mom would butt out of my life, I just may be able to get my wife back!” Allana Pratt Intimacy Expert, acknowledges her concerns…
Question: My mother will not butt out of my business. My ex-wife and I have been trying to reconcile and she’s not having it. My ex was unfaithful when we were together and my mother thinks she is just using me.
Answer: I totally hear you. You’re an adult and having your mom butt in your business is uncalled for, you are a man and handle your personal life, yes? So let me ask you, why do you answer her calls? Why do you talk to her about it? Why even listen? I don’t mean ignore her, yet have a straight adult conversation where you create a healthy boundary of what is a contribution to you and what isn’t.
On the other hand, as a mother, if my son was cheated on my a woman, my claws and fangs would be out as a protective mother bear wanting to make sure that woman didn’t hurt you again. I get that.
Bottom line, who cares what I think, who cares what your mom thinks, it’s time for YOU to honor YOU and trust what YOU think… and more so what you feel, know and deeply are aware of about this relationship.
What led to the affair in the first place? Is your ex remorseful and wanting to make amends? Are you being honored by your ex? your mom? women in general? Are you eliciting the respect from the feminine you deserve and desire? Are you clear you are worthy of being respected and cherished? Do you settle just to get attention? Are you connected to your masculine instincts? SO MANY QUESTIONS that will lead you to a relationship of thriving.
It’s hard to hear YOU when your mom is breathing down your throat. Take a sabbatical from her opinions. Love her and let her know you’re taking some time to be, to feel and to think. Don’t answer her calls for a bit. Create some silence in your mind so you can hear your heart. Ask the tough questions. Hear the brutal truth of your knowing. Act from there. You are a man now. Only you can take responsibility. Only you can create your life.
If you require support hearing that quiet still voice within, I’m here. Apply for a complementary strategy session so we can discover the depth of what caused this and the depth of what will heal this situation. www.AllanaPratt.com/connect. Once you’re deeply rooted in truth with a plan, your mom’s opinions won’t bother you. I imagine she just wants her boy to be happy.
Tonight a good read would be my complementary report for men www.GetHerToSayYes.com You do deserve to be honored, to hear your inner truth, to act in accordance with what’s true for you, to create the relationship you desire. Often times two steps back creates 10 steps forward. Breathe. I’m here. Creating space for you to hear your inner wisdom that’s always on the money. Great love, Allana xoxo
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