Do you come to conclusions about sex, based on a how many partners someone’s had? Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert invites another point of view…
You asked: What do you do when you date someone that isn’t as “experienced” as you? I have met a nice girl and she has only had 2 partners while I had, well – a lot more.
Answer: Isn’t it fun how quickly our mind comes to conclusions? Perhaps her two partners were both Tantric masters and she knows more than you? xox
Or if two partners indeed means she isn’t as experienced as you, I think you ought to be grateful! What’s right about this is that you can guide her, open her, blossom her, invite her authentic erotic nature to be revealed… you can show her all that’s possible, have incredibly vulnerable connected conversations about sexual desires, fantasies and experiences. She won’t have many preconceived ideas of how you should or shouldn’t do things, which may make you feel more free to be you!
The number of partners someone’s had, says very little about how experienced they are.
(Even someone who’s had zero partners, might know more about what pleases themself, than someone who’s had a double-digit number.)
And it says even less about how eager end willing they are to try and connect and communicate with a new partner.
This article really threw off; as in very misguiding. Very close to a sexist article from Cosmo magazine.
A gift, life changing to a follow up for a video series? I don’t believe this kind of article deserves a spot on this site. Truly disappointing to read trash like this. Gentlemen please relationships and life experiences happen. I would hate for a younger or ecen older inexperienced person of either gender to read this and compare and doubt themselves. This waa a bad advertisment. Please Goodmen this does not belong here amongst the real articles.
I’m sorry, but I found this article very cavalier and, well, sexist. I had visions of a naked studly man riding in on a steaming sex stallion and showing the helpless naive damsel what’s what. I’m currently in a situation very much like you describe. I am much more experienced than my girlfriend, who forewent relationships in favor of graduate and then medical school. I, on the other hand, had a promiscuous stretch in collge, have been married, and been around a bit. Although she doesn’t know all the ins and outs of sexual activity, she is very much in… Read more »
Thank you for mentioning that a low “number” does not necessarily mean that someone is an unskilled lover. Sometimes, one is lucky enough to reach a deep sexual union with their first partner, and both partners learn and grow together. This happened in my former marriage. Since then, I’ve had relationships with two other men. Both of them had also been in a marriage and/or long-term relationship. So, we had the same “number” as each other at the start, but unfortunately not the same level of skill. As you went on to say, this is also not necessarily a problem,… Read more »