Ladies. Social media has unleashed a new strain of loser. The “thirsty” man. Here’s how to spot him.
Ladies. I, along with tons of other “Good Men”, would like to apologize for our socially challenged, possibly mentally ill brethren. The “thirsty” man.
For the women who are in the 18-35 age demographic, I’m betting you already know what I’m talking about. For older women, or younger women who aren’t in the know, a thirsty man is one that you may meet on any of the big social media websites, who after you two get digitally acquainted…acts pretty peculiar when talking to you soon after. Typically, there are three types of thirsty, socially parched men.
1. Mr. “Add Me!” This is the guy that, ladies, if you are a Facebook user, will “like” everything you post or say in a group or your news-feed, and then not soon after, plead with you to “add me” (to “friend” him, add him to your friend’s list). And, he’ll do it a lot. Ladies, if you happen to attract this guy, please don’t add him. Because if you do, more than likely this will be his next move…
2. The Inbox Killer. I’ve got a ton of female friends who were really nice to a few men, accepting their friend requests on Facebook, and other social media sites (Twitter, etc.). And, they’ve ended up regretting it. Why? Because thirsty men will blow up a woman’s inbox. Once they’ve been granted access, they’ll not only rapid-fire questions about you and them getting together , they’ll pelt you endlessly with lewd and uncomfortable questions. Which leads to thirsty man number three.
3. “Can we have sex…now?!” Guy. As a man, this guy perplexes me, because of the sheer desperate, loser vibe these guys give. And his lack of awareness. Getting to know a woman via conversation is hot. Smart men know that great conversations with women are very sexy. That meeting of the minds and wits is special. If a man isn’t willing to get to know a woman before wanting to “get” with her, that’s a red flag in my book, because it shows a serious lack of intelligence and maturity. This is the thirsty dude that I wouldn’t wish on a female enemy. This is the guy that will fill a woman’s inbox or DM’s (direct messages) with ultra urgent pleas for sex. Five minutes after friending her. Then, when a woman tells these guys they aren’t interested, they more than likely insult the woman. Ladies, if you befriend this guy, and he ends up being this kind of thirsty man, unfriend, block, and unfollow him immediately.
Just some tips from a guy who’s been there 😉
Photo ashleybishop93/Flickr
There’s been a number of articles recently how we should denounce the association of “winning” with being “successful with the ladies”.
There still seems to be open season for the opposite, though 🙂 🙂
@ Greg
“I’ve got a ton of female friends who were really nice to a few men, accepting their friend requests on Facebook, and other social media sites (Twitter, etc.). And, they’ve ended up regretting it.”
While I have never done online dating, isn’t it always a few men when it comes to women, in general?
Just saying.
Wow……………let’s not acknowledge that there are actually Women who “Thirst Trap”, aka Seek Attention on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or other forms of social media by Batantly posting pictures or videos of themselves twerking or in their Undergarments with captions NOT matching their pics or videos…..
Great Job labeling Men in General and YOURSELF as “losers” and “Thirsty”. Good Grief, smh
But no one said you had to respond to that yeah she’s seeking attention but who is giving her that attention? Sounds like a typical frustrated male talking….and the fact that her lewd behavior is even warranting your response and attempt to talk to her speaks of your lack of character.
Desperation leading to harassment is NEVER attractive or wanted, no matter who’s doing it. Men just seem to do it a lot more than women do. Guys who act like their life isn’t worth living if they don’t get that date with that girl that they met once is hardly attractive. These are the guys who see women as a goal to be achieved and not as a human beingto interact with. They are so eagle to accomplish the goal, and who doesn’t want to accomplish a goal with the least amount of work put in? When you treat another… Read more »
I kind of like this article even though it makes me feel bad about myself, but it might serve the bad men better if it where a bit more humble. I’m sometimes this ‘loser’ but not allways. I like the info; that I got this view of myself. I like the good thought about helping women to have a better life. I feel a bit thrown in the garbage though, like I’m not good enough. That would be fine if there where some solution presented so that I could be a better man, but there aren’t any indication that I… Read more »
One thing more!
I believe that experience is key to learn and become better, so if the thirsty men out there doesn’t get to talk to women, how will they ever grow up? It’s just a thought. Just reading guides of how women want things will never be as good as communicating with them to get real answers.
Real talk fam women don’t owe you a smile a conversation a date a relationship etc….you get better by paying attention to the person and working on yourself good god don’t be so pathetic
I don’t have a problem with articles that point out “types”. A good way to help guys think about their own behaviors.
Greg: With all due respect, wtf is up with this article, calling men ‘losers’ is this the direction that GMP is headed. Are you just trying to pad yourself by pointing out the ‘other’ men who aren’t up to your standards
To the GMP editors: Reverse the genders in the article and ask yourself this question: Would you have published it here.
I have to agree with Post, this isn’t appropriate for GMP. There’s just a brief overview of men who annoy women on social media and why they are annoying. It sort of begins to acknowledge that men should take their time getting to know a woman, and maybe actually get to know a woman before sexually propositioning her. There’s no analysis of why these men do this, or really anything deeper than “Gosh Darn! They’re just so annoying! Amirite ladies?” At the very least somebody should explain the “thirsty” metaphor.
This behavior is “loserish” and makes you a ‘bug-a-boo” , its annoying , its immature. He simply pointing out misbehavior in an attempt that’ll you recognize it can correct. Post, its seems like he touched a nerve. Hes not padding himself ,hes trying to help you correct yourself with a little tough love, dont be so thin-skinned and yes the inverse of this article would be at home on this site.
You damn right