The closer we are to someone, the more we expect them to understand how we truly feel — whether positive or negative. However, no matter how intimate the relationship is, each person’s heart remains an independent entity. Besides, emotions are fleeting. If we express ourselves well during normal times, our loved ones may understand our feelings even when we say nothing during difficult situations.
There is always a case. When we exhaust ourselves constantly considering others’ perspectives, we started to complain: “Why doesn’t anyone understand me? I’m trying so hard!” This is common, especially with close ones like friends, family, and of course, lovers. “We live together, so you should know what I am thinking.” “We’re so alike, so you must feel the same!” “After so many years of relationship, you should know my thoughts without me saying them!” Are these conversations remind any of your memories?
Do you also use close relationships as an excuse to not properly express yourself? Or do you feel your goodwill should be implicitly understood rather than actively expressed? Especially with negative emotions, we tend to avoid addressing them but hope our loved ones understand our feelings without us saying anything. However, no matter how close we are, each person’s heart is independent. Emotions are also fleeting. We may fail to express ourselves well during hard times, so how about express at normal times?
When misunderstandings arose from specific issues, we always yells, “You should at least realize how I feel!” And this properly angered him/her and so retorted, right? At last, quarrel as a result. An Argue includes two people so both have a fault. We shouldn’t have thought that as a lover, nothing needs to be said and feelings should be implicitly understood.
Those closest to us should be the ones we most value. While the pleasant experience of understanding each other without words occasionally occurs, we shouldn’t expect our feelings to be understood without expressing them.
Instead, the closer we are, the more we should express our genuine feelings, whether positive or negative!
Furthermore, regardless of intimacy, good communication without obstacles requires not avoiding expressing what you hope for. At the same time, do not overthink others’ points of view and suppress the desire to be understood. Don’t be timid, but courageously express how you truly feel. Honest sharing is not shameless or rude, but a show of consideration so others needn’t guess, “What does this person really want from me?” Remember, no matter how close we are, each person’s heart is independent. Showing your need and I am sure you will gain your love!
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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