Break-ups can destroy you emotionally. As tough as it can be, the best way to move on is to explore them logically.
Here are 5 undeniable universal truths that can help you soothe the pain.
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1. “All Good Things Come To An End”
We may not consciously think about it, but we all get into relationships knowing they’ll end. We either break up or one person dies. Pain is guaranteed.
Yet, we still choose to pursue love. Because the highs outweigh the lows.
The end has come for you now, but that shouldn’t make the highs you experience any less beautiful.
Those emotions you experienced were real. You got to experience them. There’s no reason they should be tainted now.
It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.
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2. “This Too Shall Pass”
It’s not just good things that come to an end. Every phase of life is temporary. Each moment is fleeting.
Many people use the mantra “this too shall pass” to remind themselves of this. It helps them appreciate the good moments while they last. It reminds them the bad times won’t last forever.
Indeed, that’s true of the emotional pain of losing a loved one. The wounds may feel unbearable and permanent now, but they’ll heal with time.
When you take steps to embrace the next phase of your life, that’ll speed up the healing process.
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3. “What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger”
Your relationship wasn’t supposed to last longer, but that doesn’t mean it was a waste of time.
Your time together will have taught you important lessons. It will have taught you new skills. It’ll show you more about what you do and don’t want in your life. The pain from the break-up will make you stronger emotionally. Strong men and women are built in tough times.
This all prepares you to be the person you were supposed to become. For your future partner. For your future children. For your future exploits in life. Everything happens for a reason. This break-up will make you a stronger version of yourself.
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4. “We Don’t Value What Comes Easy”
Another truth that rings true across all walks of life.
We take what comes easy for granted. We value what we had to work for.
Perhaps you’ll get hurt a few more times before you find the perfect partner for you. But this process makes it clear when you’ve found the right person.
Once you do find them, the romantic struggles of your past will make you appreciate your true soulmate even more.
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5. “It’s Not Over Until The Fat Lady Sings”
The clock is still running on your love life.
Every hero’s journey has hurdles to overcome. All the best adventures have a plot twist before the hero gets his happily ever after.
If you can accept your ex wasn’t your soulmate and use the break-up to grow, you can find an even better partner before the end credits.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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