Things Guys Won’t Tell You About Micro-Conflicts

When it comes to love, all sizes don’t fit all. But when it comes to men in love, thoughts and actions seem to be universal.

That is why every man would agree to the four activities in this article to help keep the peace in your home. Most women fail to recognize how important they are to a man’s solitude and, especially, his mental health.

A micro-conflict is the one thing a man in love doesn’t want to have with his woman. That is why some folks refer to them as wimps. In support of this, most honest married men would desist from arguing with their wives, especially when it’s a conflict.

As meager as the word conflict feels, ugly ones could lead to 30 years of silent war between couples, and it could cause much more damage than expected on the children or acquaintances.

Women have an edge here, and they can bypass these situations by simply allowing their man to enjoy specific moments of solitude.

Men are simple. Many cherish these moments, and it’s a secret they won’t tell you. It helps to keep away micro-conflicts and also gives them peace.

4 activities to allow your man enjoy for solitude.

Keeping the peace in your home is as simple as letting these activities flow with interruption.

Guys won’t tell you, but now you know.

1. Sessions on the throne of peace

According to Vice magazine, 70% of men spend up to 20 minutes on the toilet seat, and one-third of men stay upwards of 7 hours a year.

If you do the pooping maths, you’ll find that your husband, boyfriend, or partner has stayed long on toilet seats since you’ve been together.

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Sure, it might not seem reasonable. A CNN cover by Jocelyn Solis-Moreira notes that taking more than 10 minutes often causes Rectal Prolapse, a condition where the rectum and parts of the large intestine slip down.

Despite this, it remains one of men’s sacred moments to avoid micro-conflicts or seek resolution. The cozy and humid temperature and absolute silence make the toilet feel like a perfect box for resolution.

Some women go as far as interrupting these moments, but it is at this time that he gets some resolve.

2. Static locomotive meditation

The playful name for this one doesn’t give it off enough, so I’ll get right to it.

Guys won’t tell you, but the driveway is a static point of absolute meditation, and the magic happens in minutes.

When I was a kid, I had moments when my dad would take time outside sitting in his car or writing notes, which I felt were unnecessary.

“You’re home now; you might as well come inside the house to do these things.” Those were my thoughts, but I soon realized that spending a little time in the driveway gives him a moment to enjoy quiet while he gets ready to go inside.

Men take the driveway stop as a ritual of peace to avoid micro-conflicts or resolve them by preparing a worthy apology for a woman.

3. Wanderlust peace

These are simply the few times men volunteer to do grocery runs. Women, being superb carers, would mostly disagree or give a compulsory offer to tag along.

Men don’t say it, but they cherish moments walking through the aisle alone. It’s not that it’s an escape route from their family or wife, but it’s a time they use to wander alone and bask in the euphoria of one of the things they love to do. Spent time alone.

Many women don’t get it, and many guys don’t say it, but men need to be alone sometimes.

So, in those odd moments when he offers to do the grocery run, don’t hurry to go with him; let him enjoy the moment alone.

4. Fake hero charades

You might not believe this, but it’s not every time your man says he is fixing something in the garage or AC duct that he is doing something.

Many times, he just wants a sacred space alone, somewhere where time moves slower and he can gather thoughts or maybe have some beer.

This one right here feels like breaking the bro’s code. Now you know why it’s been 10 years, the roof is not fixed, or the basement needs constant repair.

Other activities include:

Taking the trash out of the house
Taking longer showers.
Watching sports or (pretending to).

Finally

The major thing men won’t tell you about micro-conflicts is that they have activities they use to self-resolve or avoid them.

Women who know these activities will understand their man much better and allow him to enjoy these moments. But also get;

A recharged partner
Time for herself
More peaceful home
Greater emotional availability

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This post was previously published on medium.com.

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