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why did you leave people want to know
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why we left
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i think that’s something that we can
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answer right now
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and not
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on the actual episode
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this could be a very intimate
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answer
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um
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we i think we were trying to figure out
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if we wanted to be married
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real talk
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i think
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yes i think we needed to
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i feel like a part of what we do is we
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um
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process
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life as it happens
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and it was one of those things where
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we couldn’t process it in front of
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people we had to
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step away
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and process it with ourselves and our
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therapist in order to
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get to a place where
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we could come back and
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share
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it’s kind of like um
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what did julie say to me she was like
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you need to put a fence around this
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because you haven’t actually
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like
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processed that yet
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you know
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and i feel like
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we shoot someone something
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something specific yeah something else
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but
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um
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i don’t know
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yeah
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i think that um
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i think for me i was definitely
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trying to make sure i really can
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encourage people from a real place
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because at some point i was kind of like
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man look man if it’s getting hard then
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though
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i’m saying like just get up out of there
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dawg like you know i mean because
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for us like
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i knew that it was nothing like we’re
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not bad people
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you know what i’m saying it’s just that
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life was getting so difficult and we
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weren’t
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able to communicate well
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um
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you weren’t able to see each other’s
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perspective
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at all
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and
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that became i think both of us were in
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like fight or flight
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when
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when we stopped the podcast
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actually i’m trying to think
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like what was the reason
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no i’m just saying i don’t think when we
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stopped the podcast that i felt like
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fight or flight it came later
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it came last year
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when i was like
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what is this
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um
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for me
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what the energy the marriage yes the
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marriage like that’s when i was kind of
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fight or flight
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like i don’t know if i’m cut out for
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this
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yeah man
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and that’s a real and that’s crazy how
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we could be married for so long
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you know was coming up on 12 years now
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um and those
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i mean i guess it happens to everybody
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because a lot of people get divorced
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but like
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we could just kind of be sitting here
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like wait a minute what am i doing this
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for you know
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like who am i protecting here and
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so much it’s like so many different
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things and
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i think we had to really
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just kind of disconnect in some areas
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and i think that one thing i i know
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to be true is that when you start to
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do business together
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and i learn this you know
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from doing business with
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you know hip-hop artists
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everything becomes cloudy
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you know
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and
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you can start to be more passive
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aggressive
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or
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i can start to be more passive
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um
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which is not
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really not who i am
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but for the sake of the business and
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making sure
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i remember casey neistat right
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he was talking about how like
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okay so
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he would find himself like avoiding
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arguments with his wife
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because he needed her to be in a good
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mood for the
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camera you know what i’m saying
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and though like
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i don’t think we were there at all
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it definitely was like we would get off
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of
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the podcast
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and then like not talk because we were
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so irritated about what just happened
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and so how are we going to protect
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ourselves
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from this from that this time
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i think this time i feel like last
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how married are you before was very
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haphazard
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like i didn’t plan out content ahead of
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time
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and so i feel like
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this time with that being
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more of a
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intention
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that’ll be a little bit more avoidable
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yeah
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knowing what we’re going to talk about
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and maybe even being able to say what is
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not allowed
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to be shared ahead of time
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versus
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getting in there and then stuff starting
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to come out
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and then i have a tendency to over share
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yeah
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or share unnecessary details
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which i feel like from a storyteller
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standpoint it’s very essential
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but
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you know
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just because i think it’s essential you
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don’t you know what i’m saying like
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that’s important
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what you feel
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but i think we can now really kind of
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focus and run this like a business
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instead of a hobby
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that’s what i’m hoping
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yeah
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we just went through a whole rebrand so
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we need to uh pay ourselves back at some
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point um
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