People cheat for various related reasons. For example, some cheat to test their sexual limits. Others cannot control themselves in the face of temptation because they are overwhelmed by powerful emotions like lust or jealousy. Still, others are just bad people, but not invariably so. However, some cheat for reasons that have nothing to do with their behavior but are instead based solely on self-deception. Their reasoning goes as follows:
1. They believe that they would not be able to function as a desirable, committed partner if they did not have sex with someone else.
2. They believe no relationship will ever last if they do not have sex occasionally.
3. They believe that people will never fall in love with them unless they have frequent sex-related encounters with someone else.
4. They don’t want to accept any responsibility for their actions — so it’s easier to blame the situation because they are “easily led.
5. They fear that if they were honest about their behavior, they would be the focus of hate, ridicule, victimization, and scorn. They fear that even people close to them would turn against them if they knew the truth.
6. Their self-image is completely distorted — they see themselves as a “faithful” person who “has never been unfaithful,” Thus, it must be the other person’s fault for not being able to control themselves.
7. They live in a state of denial — they refuse to accept that what they are doing is wrong because it’s all perfectly normal and acceptable to them.
If you have ever cheated on your partner, you have given the question of “why people cheat” a lot of thought. But how can a seemingly self-destructive act be carried out without considering external factors? While there are no definite answers to this question, people may act unfaithful to fill up an inner sense of entitlement or because they feel entitled in the first place. There is no clear answer to why humans cheat; it is not black and white. However, understanding these types of thoughts and how they affect your life can help make sure that your relationship does not eventually crumble under the weight of infidelity.
Why do they cheat?
First, understand that you cannot ever really know the answers to most questions about cheating — especially when it comes to people who cheat on their significant others. The answers to these questions are simply guesses from individuals with varying experiences. The more you learn about why people cheat or how they think about cheating, the more insight you will have into what may be happening in your relationship.
What is entitlement?
To answer this question, it’s essential to look at the nature of human relationships and what it means for someone to be entitled to one’s relationship with another person. This concept of entitlement is the same one that allows people to cheat, even in a committed relationship. For example, some people believe that it’s their right to have sex with whoever they want — that if their partner doesn’t allow them this access to sex, then something must be wrong with them. Even if their partner did not have permission, these individuals feel entitled because they are not being granted what they want. Therefore, there are two sides to this coin — the side involving your right to have sexual relationships with whomever you want and the side involving your request to be treated according to what you feel is right. It seems pretty clear which side holds more weight for most people.
You might think cheating with your partner answers your problems, but it doesn’t look that way when you get caught. Regardless of what you might hear from other people, cheating is WRONG and often leads to disaster. The only reason someone would cheat on their significant other is that they aren’t getting what they need at home, and if this is happening in your relationship, then it’s time to turn things around.
The article will explain why cheating is never a good idea in a marriage or committed relationship — no matter how small the infraction may seem — and provide helpful advice for overcoming similar challenges in your relationship.
How to cope with the emotional pain associated with being cheated on? You might be tempted to tell yourself you can handle cheating, but this is rarely true. You might be able to deal with the situation now, but you’ll probably feel rejected and angry when it’s over.
The best way to cope with what happened is to cry it out. Allow yourself to mourn for your lost relationship and your hopes and dreams. Even if things don’t work out between you and your partner in the long run, there’s no shame in genuinely caring about them.
It’s essential to recognize that all of this is normal and a natural response to the trauma you’ve been through. So let yourself grieve for a while, but you’ll be ready to move forward after a few days.
The best you can do for yourself during this time is reconnecting with your friends and family because they love you and will help you through this difficult time. Having people who genuinely care about your well-being is the perfect way to get out of your rut and feel good about life again.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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