A lifelong supporter of LGBTQ Rights movement, Jeremiah Traeger demonstrates that neither clothing nor genitals make the man.
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This is me, an actual “man in a dress” (at the moment). I’m not a trans man or a trans woman, who is not a man. I am a man. Not because of what’s between my legs. Because I know myself. There’s a difference.
The argument seems to be that someone like me, a cis male, could more easily infiltrate a bathroom looking like this and assault a kid. Ok then, walk me through the steps. I think I’m missing something:
- Wear a dress.
- Walk into a women’s bathroom.
Then what? Don’t women’s restrooms have stalls? Wouldn’t I be a pervert if I looked into the stalls REGARDLESS of me being a man? If I were a pedophile, wouldn’t it be EASIER for me to stay in the men’s room? Isn’t assault ALREADY ILLEGAL?
I don’t understand how letting me into a certain bathroom makes it any easier. I’ve never seen anyone’s genitals in my bathroom visits, I doubt it’s any different in women’s bathrooms. If I’m doing something pervy or illegal, it’s going to be OBVIOUS and WRONG, regardless of how I was born. My genitalia and my clothing are NON-FACTORS. If someone is peeping under the stalls, THE DRESS DOES NOTHING!
Transgendered people have to choose between dysphoria, depression, and anxiety or having an elevated risk of being murdered.
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Here’s the difference: Tonight, I can take off the dress, and tomorrow, put on some pants and be myself. I can use the bathroom of my identity without fear of assault. I have it super easy. For a trans woman, she may have to live a lie every day if she doesn’t want to take that risk. Transgendered people have to choose between dysphoria, depression, and anxiety or having an elevated risk of being murdered.
I am informed about this issue, and to me, it’s settled and obvious. It’s not about safety and it never was. It’s about control and irrational fear. I care more about people and their safety than what’s between their legs.
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Photo courtesy of the author.
A version of this post originally appeared on the author’s personal Facebook timeline.
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I have no problem sharing a bathroom with a trans woman but I do have a big problem with the idea that my privacy and comfort in the bathroom is so meaningless that I should accept the idea that any man has a right to wander in. Would you be okay with me coming into the men’s room while you are at the urinal? No you won’t see my genitals while I ‘m in the stall, but maybe I need to wash some menstrual blood off my hands after putting in a tampon. Maybe I need to adjust my bra… Read more »
No Sarah. That won’t happen. Has it happened yet? Not that we’ve heard about at all. But you will get transmen in your rest room if the biological requirement is passed. Now that’s weird. Fear mongering has caused this issue to be way more than it is. No predators. No pedophiles. So succinctly say what the issue really is for you.
Thanks Tom for the advice on the stupid ads. Does it also stop the posting too quickly moronic statement. If so it would be worth it.
You just can’t put on a skirt and say you are a woman and walk into a ladies room. A trans person LIVES their life in the gender they choose. Even gender non conforming people live their lives in general in the biological sex they are. They just choose to use stuff that socially is expected that The other sex usually used. A gender non conforming guy might wear a skirt but he wouldn’t use a women’s rest room. This is what needs to get out there instead of the stupid nonsense from people who don’t know anything about. Stupid… Read more »
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No Tom. That’s not how it works. Which is one of the myths perpetuated by this brou-haha. It’s not about the dress. A trans woman would never have a beard for example and see herself as a woman. So a fellow, pedophile as is the issue would never live life as a woman to get at kids or rape other women. That’s the lie being promoted. She might not be in full transition but apart from surgery for the most part you couldn’t tell on passing of she did it right. A rapist would NEVER do it right. A trans… Read more »
I guess my point is that who is to say what a transgender is supposed to look like? Bruce admits that he’s attracted to women. Now what?
I “think” you answered a question I’ve asked many supporters of the bathroom controversy, that no one has answered.
A man can look like a man and still use a ladies bathroom? Yes? A man doesn’t have to wear a dress to use a ladies bathroom as long as he see’s himself as a women? yes?