A lifelong supporter of LGBTQ Rights movement, Jeremiah Traeger demonstrates that neither clothing nor genitals make the man.
This is me, an actual “man in a dress” (at the moment). I’m not a trans man or a trans woman, who is not a man. I am a man. Not because of what’s between my legs. Because I know myself. There’s a difference.
The argument seems to be that someone like me, a cis male, could more easily infiltrate a bathroom looking like this and assault a kid. Ok then, walk me through the steps. I think I’m missing something:
- Wear a dress.
- Walk into a women’s bathroom.
Then what? Don’t women’s restrooms have stalls? Wouldn’t I be a pervert if I looked into the stalls REGARDLESS of me being a man? If I were a pedophile, wouldn’t it be EASIER for me to stay in the men’s room? Isn’t assault ALREADY ILLEGAL?
I don’t understand how letting me into a certain bathroom makes it any easier. I’ve never seen anyone’s genitals in my bathroom visits, I doubt it’s any different in women’s bathrooms. If I’m doing something pervy or illegal, it’s going to be OBVIOUS and WRONG, regardless of how I was born. My genitalia and my clothing are NON-FACTORS. If someone is peeping under the stalls, THE DRESS DOES NOTHING!
Here’s the difference: Tonight, I can take off the dress, and tomorrow, put on some pants and be myself. I can use the bathroom of my identity without fear of assault. I have it super easy. For a trans woman, she may have to live a lie every day if she doesn’t want to take that risk. Transgendered people have to choose between dysphoria, depression, and anxiety or having an elevated risk of being murdered.
I am informed about this issue, and to me, it’s settled and obvious. It’s not about safety and it never was. It’s about control and irrational fear. I care more about people and their safety than what’s between their legs.
Photo courtesy of the author.
A version of this post originally appeared on the author’s personal Facebook timeline.
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