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My heart is crying, but I know these tears are not only my own, but the tears from an entire collective being shed by all those in transition as they prepare to courageously move onward beyond life’s crossroads by completely leaving the past behind in order to bravely step into a brand new, unknown chapter.
Now that we’ve all been armed with the knowledge that self-love is an inward journey of acceptance, not perfection, it’s become easier to shift ourselves beyond fear, past traumas or anything else that previously kept us stuck in negative self-destructive holding patterns of unworthiness, lack, and self-abuse.
The pity party’s over and this new chapter is about flipping the script on your old story of “I Am a Victim” and rewriting a completely new story with an entirely different title called: “Empowerment.”
Because the truth is…we are not victims.
The past couple years, we have clearly seen how the pain we carry comes from within ourselves, not from anyone or anything else externally. Yeah, you may want to duck and hide from the facts, but the truth is now we know that it’s our choice to carry these beliefs. We are wounded. The excuse meter has exceeded its limit and the blame game has quickly become the lame game, well past its date of expiration.
And while being called out on our own self-degradation seems intense at first, all in all, it becomes the wake up call we need to help us realize how all these stories we spin about being victimized are the very same tales that keep us confined in the same abusive patterns undermining our value, belittling our self-worth, and manipulating us. These tales manipulate us into believing we are so dis-empowered that our predetermined fate is that we’re predestined to forever play small…and what a steaming load of shit that is.
Well it may have taken you nearly five years, but you’re finally catching on…
You’re starting to get it now. It’s become easier to perceive how there’s really nothing left to lose anymore. Many of us have nearly lost everything already, or at least, everything outside ourselves. But there are a few pesky nuances we could spare to lose and they’re disguised in the form of false beliefs that limit us. When these are actually permanently discarded, you will clearly see how you haven’t really lost anything and there’s so much more left in life TO GAIN and all these stories you held onto before were preventing you from experiencing these possibilities.
But now it’s harvest time…
Life’s major storms have been weathered and although you may feel some sadness as you’ve recently let go of what is no longer working, remember to feel proud, too, for you have bravely endured these storms and survived.
TRANSFORMATION IS REAL, and as you begin to trust this process by fully releasing your past self in order to step into your transformation, you will begin to feel how it was in fact these storms which made you stronger and changed who you are as a person for the better. It’s time to release life as you knew it and accept these storms have washed you clean.
If you’re anything like me, you’ve already hit rock bottom. Don’t let this detour you. Allow it to become a powerful force of ambition that drives you. When you finally reach the bottom, you realize there’s only one direction to go, and the way is UP.
Rock bottom is solid. View this new foundation not as punishment, but as life’s funky way of leveling you up and redirecting you into something far greater by giving you an opportune time to rebuild life YOUR WAY and on your terms. Now it’s your turn to call the shots by deciding who and what will come along with you.
You’re in an in-between space and although that space is confusing at times, don’t be fooled. The beginning is here.
Life is a path with no particular destination. It’s a journey and what you’re experiencing now is the ride. So do your best to come into acceptance that everything you want hasn’t arrived, and even better yet, accept the possibility that many of these things may never come, or might not arrive in the ways you expect.
I’ve found there’s a universal irony in how everything you need finally comes when you realize you don’t actually need anything, and everything you want to happen will, but only when you stop trying to force them into existence.
Your heart may want to cry out from this space and you should permit yourself to feel whatever emotional responses arise from this pain. This pain can propel you toward new heightened stages of awareness, but only by deciding not to become its prisoner and remaining trapped inside it.
Painful experiences can only hurt you when held onto for too long. So whenever you find yourself becoming overwhelmed with the reoccurring painful memories, return to surrender, but not surrendering in the traditional sense.The meaning of surrender is oftentimes misinterpreted, for you are not surrendering to anything outside yourself, but surrendering TO YOURSELF as the observer bearing witness as all the illusions which no longer serve you begin to crumble away before your eyes, letting go of what the future holds, or what it may bring, and whatever you had in mind that it may never turn out to be.
Growth can be painful. Change can be painful. But neither is as painful as remaining stuck.
So, what feels to be destructive is actually a process of continually finding inner peace. You are willingly observing everything that must fall apart in order to warmly welcome these new, fast-approaching, positive elements in your life.
Let go of needing to know what happens next, and as your mind speaks of fantastical tales involving imminent danger, failure, mistakes, and destruction, you will feel as scared as a little child, but you must decide to embrace the unknown and find peace in this space instead of falling backwards into old patterns of fear, learning to trust this space and no longer fear it.
You are not alone and collectively our hearts are all in this together, crying out in unison as we shed these thousand tears, longing for relief or just a sweet and simple embrace of genuine compassion, affection, and care. That one embrace that if only it existed could hold you so tightly that it would be able to put back together all the hopelessly heartbroken, splintered, and shattered million jagged pieces, blown apart, scattered, and haphazardly strewn across the floor from the last five years.
But then turn around and face your own reflection, stop, and pause.
Gaze intensely and deeply into your own eyes. Don’t shun this experience and instead ask yourself, “Is it I who must embrace myself so lovingly? Is it only I who can put back together the shattered pieces of my soul in its rightful place?”
Allow this old familiarity of power to reignite and resurge through your veins that have been dormant underneath all the layers of conditioning and lies.
Remember…I AM WORTHY.
Only I am the CREATOR OF MY REALITY and no one else and nothing outside of me can do this for me. You can choose whenever you want and RIGHT NOW, in this moment, to love, care for, support, and encourage YOURSELF.
And even though sometimes you may long for a gentle whisper, or another voice to mention how “Everything will turn out okay,” you know in your heart that it is only you who can provide this reassurance. YOU can provide gentleness, compassion, affection, and care. You are the voice who will speak to tell yourself “All is well and everything will be okay.”
All the love, care, support and encouragement you will ever need happens to be staring back at you in the mirror.
The solution you have been waiting for is here, and this solution is YOU.
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