Apparently Amy Poehler and Will Arnette have broken up. My reaction is “…they were married?” which I think is the reaction of most people, with a few diehard fans of both having a few tears. (No judgement. If Neil Gaiman and Amanda Palmer broke up I would probably stop believing in love.)
However, some Patti Stanger person has decided to explain why they broke up. The puzzling thing is that Ms. Stanger doesn’t seem to know them at all. I mean, that’s a good thing, because it is terribly rude to reveal the inmost secrets of one’s friends, but you would think that not knowing them would be a bit of a disqualifying factor in knowing why they broke up. Not for Ms. Stanger! The universal laws of Men and Women have revealed all to her! For, lo, Poehler and Arnette were not people, but merely physical manifestations of the Great Hiveminds of their respective genders.
I’m obviously no scientist, but I bet if you could hear a Y-chromosome talk, it would say, “I want to provide and hunt.”
One half of this sentence is true.
When the woman is the primary breadwinner, it’s going against nature.
I… uh… what… I cannot. I literally have nothing to say about this.
Even if your man is the most progressive male on the planet and is completely comfortable with his woman bringing home the bacon, the rest of the world isn’t that open-minded. There will undeniably be comments and questions about your relationship dynamic.
Okay, uh, so? There are comments and questions about all kinds of relationship dynamics. Don’t want children? There are comments and questions. Dating someone of the same gender? Comments and questions. Dating someone who isn’t an ‘appropriate’ match for you for whatever reason the busybodies make up? Comments and questions. Dating more than one person (honestly, of course)? Comments and freaking questions. Not all childfree couples, lesbians, poly people, and people who date people they like as opposed to people that their parents think are appropriate are going to break up.
Here’s an interesting idea: if someone comments about your relationship, and you haven’t asked for your input, and they’re not saying something like “hey, your partner is a dick to you and I don’t think that’s okay,” then tell them to fuck off. Problem freaking solved.
I’m not saying that social pressure isn’t an issue– it is, and it makes lots of people’s lives really fucking crappy, and it can sometimes even lead to breakups. But it shouldn’t be an issue. If your relationship is emotionally healthy and makes everyone involved happy, it is really none of anyone else’s business.
If you’re a successful woman, chances are that you spend a ton of time working… He can start to feel left out of a very important and very time-consuming part of your life. It’s the same when it’s swapped.
Except that no one ever writes articles when, I don’t know, Johnny Depp divorces someone asking whether the problem was that he was “too successful.” Funny how that works.
Look. Men are different from each other. Not every man thinks it’s tragic when his wife makes more money than he does. (Hell, a lot of men don’t even want wives.) Some men are like “cool, you have money, now I can follow my dreams/deprioritize my career in favor of the kids/hang out and play video games all day.” Because men are different, and what they want out of life is different, and it isn’t “a fuckton of money” for everyone. That’s pure Success Myth bullshit.