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Well the one group says it is more m on f the other says it is roughly equal….a tricky debate which involves the big bad F word. Really wondering where those people stand here.
Just for you Ozy.
http://dannysphototherapy.tumblr.com/post/11475591762
“Someone with long hair right in their face hiding it all (which means they don’t brush it aside with their hands either, that they would look like Cousin Itt), would also look suspicious to me.” I’ve done that before, used to do it all the time joking around with friends and family back when the terminal length of my hair was longer. Nowadays the longest bit is only mid-back (and the front only extends to about my nipples if I hang it in front) and it doesn’t grow to as even a length as it did when I was in… Read more »
Agh, that was at Barry, not Schala.
Well, in this case it was really “what parts of their body they keep”.
“The idea that we have to worry about Muslim women who wear head-coverings because CRIME! is ridiculous.” Only face coverings, not head coverings. And a beard is fine, it’s hiding everything and obscuring the eyes that I object to. Someone with long hair right in their face hiding it all (which means they don’t brush it aside with their hands either, that they would look like Cousin Itt), would also look suspicious to me. Or at least attract attention. I don’t object to covering body shape by wearing looser clothing, I object to hiding everything at once (including the face).… Read more »
In New York City, a woman wearing clothes that cover her body shape and a wig will be taken for a Hasidic Jew, which in Brooklyn and Manhattan wouldn’t even merit a second glance. But I doubt anyone is going to start worrying about how criminals in NYC can just disguise themselves as Hasidic Jews, however. The idea that we have to worry about Muslim women who wear head-coverings because CRIME! is ridiculous. But I agree with you that until a kid has moved out from their parents, it can be really difficult for them to have genuinely free choice… Read more »
If it actually looks like a wig (some are good and look natural, but they’re more costly, and probably custom made), and it’s not Halloween…it will draw attention. Same for the fake beard. If you wear sunglasses indoors, you’ll also draw attention.
Those don’t hide your height or weight, either.
You could also wear a wig, fake beard, sunglasses…
“Happened once? You realize that TONS of criminals commit crimes wearing bandanas or ski masks over their faces? ” They’re quickly spotted as highly-potential criminals, while a person wearing a burqa will be forgotten until it’s too late. As for height and weight, you could wear platform shoes, and burqas are everything but tight, you would not be able to estimate weight correctly (Just my changing from men’s “unisex” t-shirts to women’s t-shirts, and getting the correct size (X-small back then), made my own parents think I had lost 20 lbs – I was *always* skinny. But formless t-shirts didn’t… Read more »
Well, Feckless, I can’t give you the official NSWATM position on domestic violence statistics (If there is even such a position), but I can give you my position on domestic violence as a whole. There’s a whole lotta fudged up folks out there like smacking the livin’ hell outta each other. And that ain’t cool. We created civilisation so’s we don’t gotta smack the livin’ hell outta nobody, as I sees it. And it’s fudged up that it’s unmanly to be smacked around by a woman. And it’s fudged up that anyone is smacked around by anyone. But the man… Read more »
Oops, that comment was for Blackhumor. Sorry.
Covering your face doesn’t make you invisible.(AB)
Australia recently had a different take on it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gynjbxznk3E
I’m not looking for a “consensus on penis size,” I’m just looking for what women are saying, and some indeed have strong opinions. But why does it have to be only if someone personally insults my penis? If anyone is derided for their small penis (for example, such a tactic is often used to belittle male public figures, frequently those the insulter is disagreeing with), it affects me, in the same way that shaming of female public figures for not conforming to societal body norms affects all women. But again, there seemed to be at least some women (who at… Read more »
@ monkey The ‘feminist position’ on penis size? What on earth…? There ain’t one. Why would there be? In the broadest terms, I’d expect most feminists to be accepting of any and every body size, and to never body shame anyone. But rather than trying to fathom why certain individuals prefer a larger penis, why others don’t, and why yet others think it’s OK to shame men with smaller ones, why don’t you STOP doing that and get it out of your head that there is some feminist consensus on penis size. The only person affected by your penis is… Read more »
I would be interested to see a take on domestic violence statistics by NSWATM. Especially the debate about the numbers, the silencing of male victims by the use of statistics etc.
Monkey I have experienced the very same thing. Very outspoken left leaning feminist, very vocal in her right to desire the big penis, even participated in program on national tv in a program that was supposed to be about prostate cancer devolved into a program where the three female participants started discussing how sexy the big dick was. My desire, someone tell this woman that this attitude finds no support in feminism and that she has just twisted a political ideology to fit her own opinions, that she would probably be better fitted by coming out as a neo-liberal instead.… Read more »
Not face covering. Cover something which won’t make your identification all but impossible. Cover your hair, your feet, your arms, everything BUT your face. Since over 99% of Muslim women don’t wear face coverings, bringing up the ones who do is utterly irrelevant. (And that number is in no sense an exaggeration; 367/2,500,000 comes out to about .01%, and France’s Muslim population is both large and more likely than average to be Mideastern.) I’ll raise you a criminal who committed thievery in a store, wearing a niqab (and yes this really happened). They don’t know the sex or any characteristic… Read more »
Barry, sorry I didn’t reply earlier: Machina, some Jews (like myself and some of my co-bloggers) do oppose the practice; see this website, for example. “Difficult” is not the same as “impossible.” Jews are not unreasoning, and it’s not impossible to change minds. Changing minds does require, however, persistence and intelligence. Your approach is wrong because it just won’t work well. Changing minds also requires having minds conducive to change. I think that works well in situations where people use reasoning to determine their behaviour (so I would expect that arguing against circumcision used as a way of preventing masturbation… Read more »
Jim: I’ll admit that I kind of went looking for the comments, but I *was* looking for feminist response to the body issues around penis size. And some of the women were quite effusive in the notion that “size doesn’t matter” or (and these are the women who gave me hope) “It’s not about the dick, it’s about the guy attached to it.” I don’t want to say which site it was on, but I was really most disturbed about the woman who complained because the guy surprised her with his small dick. I mean, really, what was he supposed… Read more »
“Plus zero for ownership.” He got the car for free? Presumably he paid for it at some point, and the standards assume it’s amortized, even if it isn’t actually bought on credit. It’s not like Jose can buy a car out of a single month’s income. But yeah, car costs are probably an area where savings are possible, which is good since by IRS standards Jose is $330 in hole even before he’s arrested. The point is not that it’s impossible to live on $10/hour if nothing else goes wrong. But if something goes wrong, there’s a very limited amount… Read more »
“So, how do I deal with righteous size queens?” I didn’t know there could such a thing. I can’t see anything righteous about it at all and in fact I have never heard the term used except in deprecation. So just calling these people size queens is a step in the right direction. Oh, and for the record, although I doubt this will be of much comfort to someone dating women, there are plenty of us who value shape over size when it comes to the esthetics of penises. ” Do I just ignore them?” Half the time yes. You… Read more »
@monkey, I admire your courage in talking about the size issue. I must say, the type of woman you’re talking about sounds rather alien to me. I could definitely picture that type of person existing, unfortunately enough, but I’ve just never met any women who would say stuff like that with a straight face. Though admittedly, I don’t broach the topic except with girls I’m fucking, which gives them a conflict of interest. Still, these sound like exceptionally bitter people. Are you sure that by specifically looking for debates on this topic on the Internet, you’re not getting a hugely… Read more »
“Public defenders are available only at the discretion of judges, who feel free to deny them to the working poor who are already living marginally, and have no way to afford a lawyer who can do more than plead out at whatever the prosecution deigns to offer.” Maybe it’s me, but the IRS really thinks everyone spends *an average* of 800$ a month on a car? Everyone is renting a deluxe car of the year and keeping it repaired and maintained more than the auto orgs are asking? I don’t own a car, which is a strike against my finding… Read more »
There’s also a follow-up (http://blog.bennettandbennett.com/2011/10/taking-back-reasonable.html), including with some ugly stories in the comments about complicity between appointed defense council and prosecutors.