Why? Because she is as full of radness today as she was on the day we first started flirting.
Throughout the summer we made you want to throw up with our sickly sweet tweets and our completely rad blog posts. Some called it “The Blogmance” and more than a few people figured there was a book deal in the works. By “some” I of course mean, “A couple people I know”. Yes it’s true. The Blogmance is over.
It’s not like one of those scandalous Hollywood breakups at all. The reality is that my work schedule is beyond crazy and The Blogger Hottie and I were slowly realizing that it was going to be next to impossible to sustain any kind of a real relationship when we live 10 hours apart and I have to fight tooth and nail to not only get a second day off in a week, but to try to make those days consecutive.
I think the writing was on the wall when we saw each other for just 24 hours late in August and we knew that there would be no face-to-face in September. By mid September the reality of this finally hit us both. I was trying my best to get away, but an October trip to Chicago was looking less and less likely. The Hottie and M are going out of town for Thanksgiving, so that weekend was out as well.
The two of us had a very adult conversation and mutually agreed that while each may think the other’s shit is pretty rad, a relationship for us just wasn’t in the cards. Some of you kind of figured it out and either DM’d me on Twitter or shot off an e-mail and asked what was going on. We weren’t Twitter flirting like we used to and the “Blogger Hottie & Sex and the Single Dad” blog posts dried up as well.
I guess I assumed that most people just figured it out, though I should have pulled my head out of my ass and undestood that my romantic relationships aren’t the center of everyone’s universe. The realization that it was still a big secret came last week.
Last Thursday I put up a blog post titled The car ride and it was some classic SSD! A few months ago this blog post would have gotten a ton of comments. This time? Two. Plus two responses from me. The hits were good, but I only got two comments. I really wondered why, until a good friend said something to me that opened my eyes.
My friend mentioned that he was chatting with another blogger and the third blogger mentioned he liked the post but he was a bit uncomfortable to comment on it because he thought the Blogger Hottie and I were still involved. It made sense to me and I thought I should say something and let people know the dealio.
The Blogger Hottie is an awesome chick and I know that she will one day find the right person to be happy with. The reality is that she needs someone who is closer to her and who can have a real relationship with her—one where you see your partner more than once every few months.
Just because I’m no longer involved with her doesn’t mean that I’m going to solicit women to send me pictures of their fabulous racks (but it doesn’t mean I’m going to reject the photos either). Sending them is clearly your choice.
I’ll continue to follow her on Twitter and Facebook (until she decides to block me) and I will read her blog and pimp it to the masses. Why? Because she is as full of radness today as she was on the day we first started flirting.
Farewell Blogger Hottie. I thoroughly enjoyed what we had and I look forward to having a good friend in the future. Peace out, yo…