Why? Because she is as full of radness today as she was on the day we first started flirting.
Throughout the summer we made you want to throw up with our sickly sweet tweets and our completely rad blog posts. Some called it “The Blogmance” and more than a few people figured there was a book deal in the works. By “some” I of course mean, “A couple people I know”. Yes it’s true. The Blogmance is over.
It’s not like one of those scandalous Hollywood breakups at all. The reality is that my work schedule is beyond crazy and The Blogger Hottie and I were slowly realizing that it was going to be next to impossible to sustain any kind of a real relationship when we live 10 hours apart and I have to fight tooth and nail to not only get a second day off in a week, but to try to make those days consecutive.
I think the writing was on the wall when we saw each other for just 24 hours late in August and we knew that there would be no face-to-face in September. By mid September the reality of this finally hit us both. I was trying my best to get away, but an October trip to Chicago was looking less and less likely. The Hottie and M are going out of town for Thanksgiving, so that weekend was out as well.
The two of us had a very adult conversation and mutually agreed that while each may think the other’s shit is pretty rad, a relationship for us just wasn’t in the cards. Some of you kind of figured it out and either DM’d me on Twitter or shot off an e-mail and asked what was going on. We weren’t Twitter flirting like we used to and the “Blogger Hottie & Sex and the Single Dad” blog posts dried up as well.
I guess I assumed that most people just figured it out, though I should have pulled my head out of my ass and undestood that my romantic relationships aren’t the center of everyone’s universe. The realization that it was still a big secret came last week.
Last Thursday I put up a blog post titled The car ride and it was some classic SSD! A few months ago this blog post would have gotten a ton of comments. This time? Two. Plus two responses from me. The hits were good, but I only got two comments. I really wondered why, until a good friend said something to me that opened my eyes.
My friend mentioned that he was chatting with another blogger and the third blogger mentioned he liked the post but he was a bit uncomfortable to comment on it because he thought the Blogger Hottie and I were still involved. It made sense to me and I thought I should say something and let people know the dealio.
The Blogger Hottie is an awesome chick and I know that she will one day find the right person to be happy with. The reality is that she needs someone who is closer to her and who can have a real relationship with her—one where you see your partner more than once every few months.
Just because I’m no longer involved with her doesn’t mean that I’m going to solicit women to send me pictures of their fabulous racks (but it doesn’t mean I’m going to reject the photos either). Sending them is clearly your choice.
I’ll continue to follow her on Twitter and Facebook (until she decides to block me) and I will read her blog and pimp it to the masses. Why? Because she is as full of radness today as she was on the day we first started flirting.
Farewell Blogger Hottie. I thoroughly enjoyed what we had and I look forward to having a good friend in the future. Peace out, yo…
Someday,somehow,,you still be friends.I am hoping that you crossed your path as to build your relationship more closer.
I agree that there’s a HUGE difference between 3 hours and 10 hours. Had it been 10 instead of 3, CBG and I NEVER would have even begun down this road, let alone found ourselves still here almost 2 years later. I get it, totally. It’s hard making grown-up decisions like this sometimes, but you gotta do what you gotta do…
Yeah, I’m late to the party. Sorry to hear that things didn’t work out for you two. You know that I can appreciate how difficult it is to make a long distance relationship as single parents work. I know that if CBG and I saw each other any less, there’s just no way we’d be able to hold it together. So I totally know where you’re coming from.
But from the sounds of things, you two are walking away from this having gained some very real things from the time that you WERE together….and that’s always a good thing.
I hear where your coming from and I agree about the time spent together. You have to admit though, that being 3 hours apart is WAY different than being 10 hours apart. I did walk away with good things and in my mind it was wrong place wrong time and that doesn’t completely rule out a right place/right time…
sorry to learn about this…… but I am glad that you could do it as adults and be fair and honest….
One of my favorite sayings, “A man that wants something will find a way, a man that doesn’t will find an excuse.” That’s all I’ve got to say about that.
Thanks for the comment. Before you get off your high horse why dont you ask her who had the original idea to end it? The answer will probably shock you.
There is something in this world called reality. When you have a moment I suggest you look into it.
This was a mutual decision
i’m bummed. but y’all are smart. if it’s not there for whatever reason, even logistical, it’s better to cut ties and move on.
Sorry to hear the blogmance is over 🙁
Dude…that totally sucks.
It does, but the reality is that the distance (10 hours) and my inability to take off for 2-3 made it almost impossible
You and your ball of sunshine find a way to work, but you’re only 3 hours apart. Still, I appreciate the comment.
Quitter.
I’m sorry bro. I’m not rating too high on The Muskrat Cool Scale this week, am I?
I kinda figured it out – I’m not sure whether or not that means your romantic relationships are the center of my universe or not. I’ll have to think on that…
Anyway, good for you for being a grown up about the whole thing. I’m glad that you both “parted” on good terms and you think you are better because of it. I guess it was just a precursor to what (who?) you are supposed to find next.
Good luck!
🙁
This makes me sad.
But I do know how difficult long distance is. It hurts sometimes worse than not dating at all! I hate ya’ll couldn’t make it work.
Glad to see the friendship staying intact. Much love to both of you.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out too. I hope you both remain friends, and who knows your situation may change in the future.
Best wishes in life and love to you both.
Thanks to both of you. This will work out fine. We tried and circumstances were such that it couldn’t happen. I’m a better person for the experience and I have some great memories…
Good for you guys. Sorry that the relationship couldn’t work, but glad that you both come out of it all the better and still maintain a mutual respect and friendship.
Good luck with the local ladies scene.