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I hear of so many men in their 20’s, 30’s & 40’s taking viagra so they can be ‘THE MAN’ whilst having sex with their wife or partner.
And, yes I wrote ‘sex’ instead of making love because that’s exactly what it is….sex!
Because when you are having sex on viagra you are making it all about you and not your partner.
Most of the guys, unfortunately, haven’t told their partner either, It becomes their little secret…. their little blue diamond secret weapon which enables them (what they consider) to be a great Man/Lover.
And, I am NOT talking about Men that have an erectile dysfunction and haven’t been able to enjoy the pleasures of sex /intimacy and where the use of viagra definitely serves its purpose.
I am talking about Men that are able to get and sustain erections but feel the need to be more.
After a while of using viagra Men take on the conscious & subconscious beliefs that they are… NOT good enough…NOT worthy……if they don’t take the little blue diamond pill prior to sex.
The thoughts of, ‘I won’t be able to perform’, ‘I won’t be able to satisfy her properly’ start brewing and they begin to avoid initiating intimacy.
Some even avoid spontaneous sex and intimacy with their partner if they haven’t had a chance to prime themselves with a viagra first.
That alone can cause issues within a great relationship!
I certainly wouldn’t feel too excited if I knew my partner had to have a tablet before lovemaking so she would feel worthy or good enough to satisfy me!
The way to overcome this and to bring more closeness, authenticity & intimacy to your relationship is to better the relationship you have with YOURSELF!
Begin to work on building up your own self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth…..creating new beliefs so you can truly be you.
I can guarantee you that your partner will love you more for being YOU and doesn’t require a Ron Jeremy performance every time. Most women prefer the closeness, attention, and connection that a Man can give rather than a rock hard performance.
Imagine stepping up to the plate not having to hide or begin to think about ‘ohh I hope my viagra kicks in’ moment and bringing a far deeper (pardon the pun) intimacy and connection with your partner.
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A version of this post was originally posted on Facebook.com and is republished here with permission from the author.
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