This video, with the man looking right at you and the unadorned background has a really intimate setting. It’s hard to watch, but you need to because it just skewers some of the ideas society holds about how men are expected to behave.
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This video, written and performed by Andrew Bailey really takes you through an emotional experience with this video about why some people laugh at rape jokes.
It also speaks about women who rape (which is something you don’t always hear talked about in mainstream publications). A huge part of the problem around the silence of male rape victims is the rape myth that “men always want sex”, as well as the laws that do not recognize that sexual assault is a spectrum of events. Perhaps most importantly this video also reminds us to be gentle to each other and not reinforce stereotypes about masculinity that make it impossible for some men to be heard.
#rapecultureiswhen male victims of sexual violence aren’t believed because “don’t guys want to have sex all the time anyway?”
— Laci Green (@gogreen18) March 25, 2014
Well this certainly flies in the face of the narrative pushed by gender idealogues.
WOW
But, per the CDC (and many feminists), this is not rape because “being made to penetrate” is classified as “other sexual assault” rather than rape. I disagree, as I think of rape as any non-consensual sex.
I honestly have never heard this from a feminist. Maybe Canada has a more progressive understanding of sexual assault but every workshop, talk, speech, and conversation about rape I have been in mentions that males are also victims of sexual assault. I’ve heard of course of second wave feminists who have said things like this, but I hope we are in more enlightened times now.
Adele Mercier, Queen’s Professor of Philosophy
David Futrelle until fairly recently. Mary Koss http://www.genderratic.com/p/2551/male-privilege-defining-male-victims-out-of-existence/. Note that the 2011 NISVS came out a few weeks ago, and “being made to penetrate” was still not rape. I got into a conversation with a feminist online where she told me that she didn’t think that if she were a man she would not classify “being made to penetrate” or “envelopment” as rape. Males also being as victims of sexual assault isn’t the issue exactly, since anal rape seems to almost always get acknowledged as rape. The issue happens mainly when non-consensually getting made to penetrate or equivalently envelopment doesn’t… Read more »
“andthefear”
An outstanding a greatly needed perspective. I’m so glad to see this. Ken Lanning, a former FBI agent who literally wrote the book on child molesters said:
“Whether or not it seems fair, when adults and children have unforced sex, the child is always the victim.” Kenneth Lanning Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis, 5th Ed p.6
This only helps people better understand why.
Chris Anderson,
Executive Director, MaleSurvivor
I don’t see how people could see child abuse as fair. It’s disturbing that people assume young boys want to have sex with older people. They are children. There’s an age of consent. It’s an abuse of power. It’s just wrong!
Really good and really important.