Shame and Violence: The Connecticut School Shooting and Hate

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  1. I have seen a lot of Obama supporters calling for the murder of children belonging to conservatives

  2. Vivian Kran says:

    1: link does not open.
    2: this was interesting reading. As a Scandinavian I wonder why we here have a murder rate only a fraction of the one in the US. We are said to have as many weapons or more than you in America.
    What we do have,however, is a high sucicide rate among young men. And a high rate of men killing their women.

    Are our culture a guilt culture and yours a shame culture?

    • I agree that yours is a guilt culture. Japan is a perfect example of shame culture. I believe we are fueled by both shame and guilt here in North America, which could be perceived as an advantage compared to pure shame societies – another framework of thinking is available and socially accepted for ponderers of change.

  3. Keith Roper says:

    Thanks for this great article. When reading psychoanalyst Helen Lewis’ findings, I saw myself: awkward, feeling rejected, never realizing how much shame is the primary emotion. This realization helps me see where my anger comes from. I am not a violent person, thankfully, but my anger is frequent; I’m able to dispel it in various ways, i.e., workouts at the gym, meditation, guitaring.

    Thanks a lot. And I’ll be sure to check your Authenticity website.

  4. Brene Brown is a researcher on shame and vulnerability as well. Her work is at http://www.brenebrown.com

    She’s really awesome.

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