As a father, I have no say in my son’s love life. And that is exactly the way it should be.
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March 1, 2013
Hey kid,
Right now, you have a few innocent crushes on at least three different girls in your class.
However, if by the time you’re reading this, you’ve figured out that you like boys more than you like girls, then make sure you tell me.
Because although I will want to know, I absolutely won’t care.
Are you humble? Are you honest? Are you loyal to your family and friends? Are you true to your word? Are you respectful of your mother? Are you protective of your sister? Are you living up to the potential I have seen in you since the moment you entered this world?
Did you answer “yes” to all of these questions?
Good. Then go finish living your life. Because you have become the man I expected you to be.
And who you love is your business.
And I don’t blame him for falling in love with you.
Love,
Dad
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photo: katerha / flickr
Thank you both for the kind comments. I wrote this letter as a sincere expression of my love for my son and to remind him that, no matter what the rest of the world may tell him, I will always love him…even if he ends up falling in love with someone else’s son.
I loved it up until you took away his (son’s) choice by saying “I don’t Blame Him for falling in love with you.” Even if a preference of the father it should not be implied to the free willed son although opening his son’s mind to the acceptance of the father of the idea and also raising it as a possibility when may not have been a consideration for personal reasons in the son’s mind. It should have read (IMO) “I don’t blame Her or Him for falling in love with you.” That, to me, would have kept it open… Read more »
Wonderful letter. Any son would be happy to get that letter.
Great post.
Cheers,
Alan
This is absolutely beautiful! Thank you!