#37: Good?

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About Cale Helmer

A devoted yet exhausted father to a beautiful daughter and an amazing boy with Asperger's Syndrome. Married to the most tolerant woman in the world who just so happens to be my best friend and my secret crush. I talk a lot and usually eat even more than I talk. Deep down though, I'm a gentle giant


  1. I too used to fear that some day I’d be exposed as a fraud, at my work, in my life, at everything I was doing.

    I have thankfully reached a point where I know I’m doing my best, I have a clear conscience, and I get enough positive feedback from my kids, coworkers and friends to keep that fear at bay. But I’m still always striving to be better at life.

    I also think that, in a sense, we’re all frauds, in that life did not come with an instruction manual, so we’re all making it up as we go along. And, to me, in a very zen way, that is the nature of the universe.


    • Jim,

      I couldn’t agree with you more. I think grown-ups on the whole; at least the ones with any sense of selfworth, spend incremental amounts of time pondering whether they’re cutting the mustard so to speak.

      My hope is that these people have access to the same support network of loved ones and peers that help to formally and informally validate them whenever the chance arises. Sounds like you do.




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