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About Chris Wiewiora

Chris Wiewiora is the author of the e-book Riding Solo from Thought Catalog. He mostly writes nonfiction, which has been published on nerve, the Rumpusand the Huffington Post as well as many other magazines. He is a regular contributor to The Good Men Project. Read more at www.chriswiewiora.com.

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  1. This is not a tale of, again, A MAN betrays A WOMAN’S trust.

    The turd in the punch bowl, the toad in the trail and the EleF

  2. And you really, really, really expect him to tell her the truth?
    ‘Babe, remember that night I came home late and you had sat up for hours waiting for me? Well, I was out digging someone else, and that’s why I didn’t even have the energy to make love to you. Oh well, but I’m sorry, let’s pick it up from where we left…..!’
    Not to sound obnoxious or anything, but I really think you and Lauren have an obligation to tell Andrew’s girlfriend. You say you all love and care for each other, well then that means the best for her too. Tell her, whether it’s in the middle of a game or lunch with family or wherever. Just tell her. It’s a good thing that your conscience is eating you about this, and it’s another good thing that you told Lauren. But, even as you wait for the ‘right time’ just know that Lauren is observing you. She may not say it, but somewhere in her heart and mind she knows your similarities with Andrew, and now she is secretly battling a fear that you, like Andrew, already have or soon will cheat on her as well. What you choose to do now is what will save all relationships.
    And just by the way, when I finally discovered my man was cheating on me, and everyone in our circle of friends and relatives knew, I didn’t hold it against those who had hinted or tried to tell me. My deepest hurt is with those who knew, but kept quiet and watched from a distance ‘to protect me and my relationship.’
    It’s your choice.

  3. Let’s try again- maybe the paste didn’t work yesterday…

    This is not a tale of; again, A MAN betrays A WOMAN’S trust.

    The turd in the punch bowl, the toad in the trail and the EleF***ingFant in the living room is the drink.
    [As is the case with so many of the articles at GMP]

    This a story about a couple of drunks deciding to get it wet behind the back of the people they regularly see; maybe a sin, maybe simply bad form.
    Andrew admits he has a drinking problem.
    After years of drinking and twice as much time not drinking I will bet my paycheck she was drunk too- sane & sober people rarely get laid impulsively with a drunk while they are sober.

    From my chair, and it is an old and creaky chair, the sub-plots are Chris is a poor excuse for a friend and a rat.
    “If he didn’t tell her, I said, then I would.”
    Why? What good would it do her? Is she your sister? Who are you to decide to change her life?
    “I told my girlfriend…everything”
    From here it seems you dug deep into “your friend’s” vulnerability and turned it into brownie points with the woman you’re seeing. Did you run this by your buddy? To me it seems you were without the balls to threaten Andrew as you bragged to your sweetheart you would do.

    How are men supposed to discuss their foibles and failures when they can expect public humiliation from the person to whom they turned?

    [Let's get out front on the issue. In this case "balls" is shorthand for character, courage and spine. It is a phrase common to the vernacular of the world in which I live]

  4. Jezabelle says:

    It’s your friends responsibility to talk to her. Not yours. At no point in time is it your responsibility. It is their relationship, and unless you are a part of it, you have no duty to tell her.

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