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This comment was by Programagor in reference to the post – Can a Man and Woman Be “Just Friends?”
I am currently in a somewhat precarious situation.
My very good friend and I are co-workers. We both have our own relationships. Mine is polyamorous/open, but hers probably isn’t. We spend a lot of time together, and most of that time is a great time.
On several occasions, I seriously considered asking her if she’d be interested in anything more than the friendship we currently have, but never did out of fear that it would damage the friendship. I’m afraid that after that, she would view all my good actions towards her as an attempt to win her affinity. I assessed my behavior, and it is true that I do a lot of good things for her, but I don’t think labels such as “nice guy”, “people pleaser”, “friendzone”, etc. would apply here. I just genuinely love seeing her happy.
I wouldn’t mind if we stayed just friends because the friendship is one of the best I ever experienced. But I do spend an unhealthy amount of time contemplating all the what-ifs.
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