Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold
Hey Wendy,
If a man you were dating said to you, “I can’t give you what you need”, but you don’t think he really knows what you want, how would you go about addressing this with him?
Brenda S.
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Hey Brenda,
I would say, “Hey. So what is it that you think I need?”
Then I’d listen.
I’d clarify.
And I wouldn’t pull any punches with this guy – I’d know in my heart of hearts I had very little to lose at this point.
Usually, when a guy says something like this, he actually means, “You want me to love and commit to you, and I’m not going to do either of those things.”
If he’s genuinely worried that he can’t give you what you want, need and desire, and he just needs a little nudge in the right direction, then he’ll be grateful to you for the above conversation.
If, however, he’s really just saying goodbye without coming right out and saying the words, then it’s better to clear the air now so you can move on.
Happy Dating!
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This post was previously published on MEDIUM.COM.
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