Everything you do is wrong and you’re not a bad person so you want to be given a little slack, right?
About Justin Lioi
Don’t Teach Your Child How To Manage YOUR Anxiety
What can we do while our children are young to prevent them from suffering or spending years in therapy having to unlearn everything?
What can we do while our children are young to prevent them from suffering or spending years in therapy having to unlearn everything?
When We Gender Our Kids We Often Destroy What’s Human About Them
How do we (intentionally or not) enforce gender stereotypes?
How do we (intentionally or not) enforce gender stereotypes?
Alpha or Beta: The Hierarchy of Real Men (And Related Binary, White Supremacist Social Norms)
What patriarchal, heteronormative assumptions contribute to toxic masculinity?
What patriarchal, heteronormative assumptions contribute to toxic masculinity?
Decenter the Male Self—But Don’t Erase It
While you know yourself better than anyone else ever will, we can’t just discount what others perceive.
While you know yourself better than anyone else ever will, we can’t just discount what others perceive.
The Little Ways We’re Sexist (And Why They Matter So Much)
So much of the work we do to ensure our place in society is basically attempts at avoiding shame.
So much of the work we do to ensure our place in society is basically attempts at avoiding shame.
Let’s Get Rid of the American Idea of Individualism
What awaits us if we work toward something different?
What awaits us if we work toward something different?
3 Ways for a Man NOT to Manage His Stress
Here are some stress management techniques that you should stay away from.
Here are some stress management techniques that you should stay away from.
Man Code: Men are Supposed to Solve Problems, NOT Complain About Them.
The patriarchy doesn’t want us “complaining” because, if we do it right, it may actually lead to change.
The patriarchy doesn’t want us “complaining” because, if we do it right, it may actually lead to change.
The Steep Learning Curve for Dads Makes Them Look Inept
We have to stop pretending there are biological reasons for why women do certain things and men do certain things.
We have to stop pretending there are biological reasons for why women do certain things and men do certain things.
Feel What You Feel and Don’t Displace It
Or at the very least you can choose to hold in that feeling until you are somewhere it can be expressed. If you’re sick and tired of your senator you can find ways to put that feeling into action instead of just getting a bunch of drinks every time he or she says something that makes you cringe. You can channel that energy into electing the new candidate. You can learn meditation, work out, and find what works for you because now you’re not yelling at your kids, picking a fight with the neighbor, or letting “little things” mean so much more than you rationally know that they do.
Men and Emotions: Who’s the Judge?
Do you need thicker skin?
Embed from Getty Images—While many people enter counseling because they’ve been told they need to be more “emotional” (whatever that means…) another grouping of people have been told they’re “over-sensitive” and they tell me they want a “thicker skin.”When I first heard this years ago, my thought was “Wow.”We, counselors, train to support people in…
Why Men Choose Punishment Over Compassion
Does punishment always work best when a compassionate, curious exploration of behavior is available? Many of us grow up with an understanding that when we do something wrong we should be held responsible. Does that necessarily mean we need to be punished for it?
How to Connect a Man to His Feelings
How can we provide as many spaces as possible for males to encourage the expression of vulnerable feelings from birth through adulthood?
How can we provide as many spaces as possible for males to encourage the expression of vulnerable feelings from birth through adulthood?
How Emotions Get in the Way of Being Productive
Men, allow yourself to feel . . . and then get out of your own way.
Men, allow yourself to feel . . . and then get out of your own way.
Bringing Men Out of Isolation with Empathy and Accountability
How can men be grounded in an analysis of patriarchy and oppression?
How can men be grounded in an analysis of patriarchy and oppression?