How do we deconstruct the crux of ‘boys will be boys’?
—It’s not going to surprise anyone to hear that there is a stigma against men seeking help for mental health reasons. A large portion of the guys who come to see me have been referred over a course of many weeks or months (sometimes years) from their female partners, friends, and sometimes mothers.When I’m talking…
What are we really asking here?
Our self-worth and self-esteem have a lot to do with these two feelings.
When we stop expecting ourselves and others to fit into the man box, we can be enjoy a happier, freer world.
How much of a choice do we allow ourselves to make when it comes to how we express our gender?
Embed from Getty Images—While many people enter counseling because they’ve been told they need to be more “emotional” (whatever that means…) another grouping of people have been told they’re “over-sensitive” and they tell me they want a “thicker skin.”When I first heard this years ago, my thought was “Wow.”We, counselors, train to support people in…
What awaits us if we work toward something different?
Venting can be helpful—especially for men who have held in all their emotions—but don’t stop there. Here’s how to re-think complaining.
Your feelings will not make you less of a man.
Here are some stress management techniques that you should stay away from.
Embed from Getty Images—Conversations about gender can often make people defensive. And by “people” I include myself along with those who identify as progressive, conservative, or otherwise. Our ideas of gender go deep and they are pretty firmly held.In order to have a productive conversation with someone, the key is not to avoid conflict but…
We can get in touch with the humanity that toxic masculinity and patriarchy have kept us away from.
Justin Lioi explains Masculine Default Man Setting and how to move out of the Man Box.
The patriarchy doesn’t want us “complaining” because, if we do it right, it may actually lead to change.
How to define and redefine relationship roles.