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How to Understand Shame and Guilt
Our self-worth and self-esteem have a lot to do with these two feelings.
Our self-worth and self-esteem have a lot to do with these two feelings.
Becoming Wary of the Binary
When we stop expecting ourselves and others to fit into the man box, we can enjoy a happier, freer world.
When we stop expecting ourselves and others to fit into the man box, we can enjoy a happier, freer world.
Complaining as a Doorway to Self-Knowledge
Venting can be helpful---especially for men who have held in all their emotions---but don't stop there. Here's how to re-think complaining.
Venting can be helpful—especially for men who have held in all their emotions—but don’t stop there. Here’s how to re-think complaining.
Getting Out of Getting Defensive
In order to have a productive conversation, we need to become aware of our defenses.
Embed from Getty Images — Conversations about gender can often make people defensive. And by “people” I include myself along with those who identify as progressive, conservative, or otherwise. Our ideas of gender go deep and they are pretty firmly held. In order to have a productive conversation with someone, the key is not to…
How Understanding Consent Has Made Me More Human
We can get in touch with the humanity that toxic masculinity and patriarchy have kept us away from.
We can get in touch with the humanity that toxic masculinity and patriarchy have kept us away from.
Knowing Yourself Isn’t Enough
How to define and redefine relationship roles.
How to define and redefine relationship roles.
Learning from Your Defensiveness
Your feelings will not make you less of a man.
Your feelings will not make you less of a man.
Creating New Roles When the Old Ones Don’t Fit
Justin Lioi gives us new lessons in masculinity.
Justin Lioi gives us new lessons in masculinity.
Becoming Aware of Your Emotions Can Suck (At First)
Some defenses are positive mechanisms for dealing with uncomfortable feelings. Others, well, they’re horrible.
Some defenses are positive mechanisms for dealing with uncomfortable feelings. Others, well, they’re horrible.
Feeling and Identifying Emotions to Avoid Tantrums and Adult Conflicts
Justin Lioi on slowing yourself down when feelings of anger begin and learning to not let your emotions control you.
Justin Lioi helps us understand how we can slow down when anger brews before it controls us.
How Shame Limits Us
Anything that limits a person from fully expressing themself means that we all lose out. Justin Lioi tells us how we can connect deeper.
Anything that limits a person from fully expressing themself means that we all lose out. Justin Lioi tells us how we can connect deeper.
Showing Real Strength
Our definition of what makes a man strong needs an update.
Our definition of what makes a man strong needs an update.
How Do We Learn Sadness?
How do men learn sadness? Justin Lioi, LCSW, takes on the fear and feelings we can’t avoid. — Can you remember seeing your dad cry? It wouldn’t be that strange if you said ‘no’ or if you really had to dig deep to remember. Maybe it was at a wake, maybe a wedding. Was it…