Why do men so commonly engage in repeated and predictable behaviors that frequently doom their marriages?
‘My Wife is Irrational, Therefore She’s Wrong’ (and Other Fallacies We Convince Ourselves Of)
A couple can experience the same thing, feel differently about it, and neither of them are wrong.
A couple can experience the same thing, feel differently about it, and neither of them are wrong.
The Taxonomy of Men and Husbands—Good, Bad, or Otherwise Unfit
Being a good man and a good husband can be mutually exclusive things, and love can exist in the worst and most painful of marriages.
Being a good man and a good husband can be mutually exclusive things, and love can exist in the worst and most painful of marriages.
The Myth of the ‘Nagging Wife’ and the Invisible Wounds that Steal
Failing to accept their wives’ influence is the number one reason for—and predictor of—divorce.
Failing to accept their wives’ influence is the number one reason for—and predictor of—divorce.
What Married Men Know About Sex That Single Men Will Never Know
Experience, shame, and the 'way it is' regarding sex after marriage (and why it changes).
Experience, shame, and the ‘way it is when we talk about sex after marriage (and why it changes).
Life, Death, and Writing after Divorce: How Writing Brought Me Back To Life
He found new life and connection where most men would throw in the towel.
The Dream of a Healthy Marriage—an Open Letter to Husbands Regarding His Attention for Her
I know a birthday girl. I just met her husband. I don’t know if they’ll make it...but I really want them to.
I know a birthday girl. I just met her husband. I don’t know if they’ll make it…but I really want them to.
From the Bad Husband Files: a Colorblind Marriage Where Both Spouses are Right
Why the 'if she’d stop finding new things to be upset about, everything would be perfect' defense is nonsense.
Why the ‘if she’d stop finding new things to be upset about, everything would be perfect’ defense is nonsense.
Does Divorce Hurt Men More Than it Hurts Women?
When it comes to life management and relationship skills after divorce, do women have an advantage? And does it matter?
When it comes to life management and relationship skills after divorce, do women have an advantage? And does it matter?
What It’s Like Right Before Divorce—and it Doesn’t Have to Be
Matthew Fray explains how to lose her forever (and how to prevent a life of such loss).
Matthew Fray explains how to lose her forever (and how to prevent a life of such loss).
The Necessity of a Man’s Tribe: Its Effect on Marriage, Work, and the Lost Hours Inbetween
Adulthood is impossible to shoulder when we're carrying it alone, instead of with a tribe.
Adulthood is impossible to shoulder when we’re carrying it alone, instead of with a tribe.
Can a Marriage or Relationship Be Brought Back from the Dead?
Most things that die stay that way. Is it the same for relationships and marriage?
I Just Lost Half My Son’s Life in the Divorce: How Can Our Sons Break the Cycle?
What can we say to our sons to teach them how to have a healthy relationship? What seeds can we plant to help break the cycle of divorce?
Our Marriage—the Steam Train
Marriage is that sturdy, long-distance engine in need of constant energy.
Is Your Spouse Hurting You on Purpose?
The thing is–pain is pain, and it changes us and our relationships forever.
The Death and Rebirth of Manhood, Beyond Fear and Shame
Why are men afraid of losing their identity as men?