It was a miscalculation or a festering problem too small to notice, until everything fell apart, even when everything seemed to be functioning perfectly to the only people who could have done something about it.
Enough’ is whatever two people agree to in a relationship.
Bad News—You Don’t Get to Dictate What Matters to Other People
Men want their “man cards”. Even if it kills them.
In a life where I had to face total loss of control and influence over who got to be in my son’s and ex-wife’s lives, I was gifted a relationship where I don’t have to worry about whether they will be safe.
One minute, you’re raging. And you say or do something that falls in the “I didn’t mean it” category once regret replaces the anger.
Long before I was accidentally (but egregiously) a shitty husband, I was just a young guy trying to figure things out.
Because no one ever handed out the How to Deal with Major Life Trauma manual.
Marriages break because neglectful spouses devolve—from loved one, to roommate, to stranger you want to face-punt.
We have two choices: Be afraid. Or embrace opportunity.
I’ve seen less than 1 percent of all there is to see.
There’s no shortcut to reclaiming your life.
It doesn’t “jive” because we’d just “assume” do it the wrong way.
Who would you trade places with if you had to take all their baggage, too?
It’s hard to find people who know how to see the subtlety of emotional abuse for what it is.
To me, there’s no choice at all. We can live in the darkness, or try our best to light it up.