If I believe in a higher plan, if I want to navigate with star maps and not treasure maps, then I can be IN LOVE and AT PEACE even in this painful pause. The pain has a lesson for me. I may learn something new every morning and every evening. I am learning.
What Women Want to Know About Single Dads, From a Single Dad
Talking to a lot of women about dating single dads has given me some insights.
As a couple moves towards kid introductions and connecting their families together, there’s going to be a lot of alignment that needs to happen. For me, this process is all about creating and cherishing the WE of the relationship.
A Self-Help Coaching Map: Going for Your Joy
Redirecting yourself towards a healthier lifestyle and a more joyous life only takes a little nudge.
Give yourself permission, every day, to realign a bit of your energy and action towards what’s most important in your life. This is where you will find happiness along the way, as you refind your purpose in life, and find the joy of heading in the right direction.
Why Is Self-Care So Difficult? ME Cycles and Wondermints
What if we gave ourselves little treats of self-care throughout the week? A wondermint. A simple redirection.
It’s hard to ask for what we need if we don’t have the time to ask and answer the question for ourselves. Even when we do know what we need, often it is overwhelming to ask for what we need.
What Makes a Great Dad? 5 Things I Learned From My Divorce
Everything changes when parents get divorced. This single dad turns it into a positive experience in his kid's lives.
There are plenty of times when it’s difficult not being with my kids. But what I can give them is 110% dad when they are with me. I have the rest of the time, when they are not with me, to heal and focus on myself and my goals.
Alignment in Time and Space: Finding and Refinding Your Partner
Often the universe does not align with our goals and desires. We have to listen and keep reaching out to our partners.
My inner dialogue and my personal biographical story continue to be written even when I cannot share this night. My hope is that the gossamer connections between us will still carry enough energy and information to keep our souls interested in reconnecting and rejoining and that we both find the desire and time to make it happen.
The New Rules of Sex: Frequency, Fun, and Fantasy
In relationships sex can be a challenge, how do we find and keep our sexual sync?
Keeping sexual communication open throughout your relationship is critical. As one partner starts closing off, and not just having periods of low sexual desire, but shutting down the idea of sex, something is going to break down.
Whole Adults Dating Again: Knowing Ourselves, What We Won’t Compromise
It's all about time, updated dating rules for building a lasting relationship.
What am I willing to give up to be WITH someone. What would “tonight” look like if there were another person waiting in the wings to spend time with me.
This Feels Like Letting Go: A Moody Season with Storms and Sunshine
So much of my life has been spent in longing moods. This is comfortable. This is not what I want.
I can forgive and still love each of these women in their various states of disrepair. I can walk away knowing I brought my best game into their lives. I can walk away with my heart still on my sleeve, because that’s how I go through life. And I can refind my hopefulness.
Time, the Currency of Modern Relationships: Either You Have it to Give…
Once you have decided to move on, you must understand that your former partner owes you nothing. Closure is a myth we like to "go for" in our breakups, but closure is up to us as individuals.
Once you have decided to move on, you must understand that your former partner owes you nothing. Closure is a myth we like to “go for” in our breakups, but closure is up to us as individuals.
That Long-Term Relationship You Are Seeking… It’s With Yourself
Each time we suffer a breakup, we have to confront ourselves being alone. What if we start healing right there?
There is no bridge that’s going to make our relationship work again, so my longing necessarily stayed in my own heart. There is no sense in sharing our desires and hopes when the other person is not available. It only makes it hurt worse.
Love on the Air Podcast: From Online Dating to a 10-year Anniversary
Tina Schweiger tells us about her amazing first date that is essentially still going.
Each one of us wants to feel loved. We seek a partner. We navigate dating introductions to hopefully find someone to share our lives with. We commit to a relationship and try to make it work. We fail. And we find the courage and energy to start over.
Marriage Story Review: Reckoning with the Blowback
There is no #metoo moment in Marriage Story.
The parents in Marriage Story tried. And when the mom is unable to read the things she loves about her husband, we see her hot flash of realization as she leaves the mediation without engaging in the process.
Navigating Difficult Conversations in a Romantic Relationship w Grace
Learning to listen without fear, judgement, or advice giving, is a ninja relationship skill.
You must give your partner the assurance that you are not running away. And you must also allow them to hold their own pain. By “staying in your own lane” you are giving them several strong messages.
The Inner Life of Your Kid: Navigating Our Own Rainy Fridays
A single dad recalls his parent's divorce and how his own divorce transformed his life.
We’re all walking down our own little hallways. We’re all singing our inner songs. And we’re probably all a bit distracted and unsure of exactly where we should go. We know the way to our homeroom. We may not be sure about how to navigate the rainy Fridays along the way.
Six Masterclass Lessons on Divorce: Finding a Light After the Loss
Divorce is like a massive life reset. Here are some ideas about making it a massive win.
Always ask for what you need. Your partner cannot read your mind. And that angry look your giving them may not convey what you’re hoping to convey. Talk about it. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt.