I believe we cannot heal from our divorce/relationship trauma without getting back into the ring and giving it another go. Only IN RELATIONSHIP can we learn how to be healthy in a relationship.
Always Being the Better Man: Dads In Divorce Leading with Love
Even as things did not go his way, this single dad made the most of his 30% custody schedule.
Even as I was being asked to leave my family, to give my wife the divorce she was determined was going to make her happier, I was challenged to love them all through the dark times. My constant love, my unrelenting optimism, and hope kept all of us protected from the harsh potential of a contentious divorce.
The Pre-Natal Agreement Changes Everything About Being a Parent
It's time for dads to take full responsibility for our participation in raising our kids.
Dads are equal parents. It’s time for dads to take full responsibility for our participation in raising our kids.
Don’t Underestimate My Fragility or My Ferocity: Depression & Divorce
A single dad struggles with depression at work, at home, and while he's alone.
I have a bit of a mood problem. It seems that when my life gets really tough (bounced checks, trouble at work, arguments at home) I sometimes collapse into a depression.
7 Wins for the Hyper-Focused Single Parent
Getting your co-parenting mojo on, is part of a winning strategy after divorce.
The general mode of life with dad is positive and happy. I am *so* happy to have them on the days and nights I am afforded, that there is little room for complaints or nagging.
Encouraging News About Online Dating from One of the Good Guys
Learning the difference between casual dating and intentional dating is important if you're seeking a long-term partner.
If you are not overtly focused on finding your next long-term relationship, by all means, play around in the online dating pool. Learn some skills. Kiss some frogs. But when you get serious about finding a partner, well, set your intentions and your standards a lot higher. 100% higher.
You’re Not the Only One Who Doesn’t Want to Be Alone Tonight
Dating was not my goal. I wanted a long-term relationship. I wanted THE ONE.
What I really want is to find a partner who is able to express love and joy easily. And then, over time, I want to continuously fall in love with her, every day. I want to celebrate our victories. I want to soothe the difficulties. And I want to feel loved, above all else,
The Art of Indifference After Divorce: Letting Go With Intention
This single dad learns to let go of his resentment while staying close to his children.
What I’ve got is my state of happiness and peace. I no longer fight with her about anything. I no longer ask her for anything. I keep my communications primarily with my kids. As far as I’m concerned, she’s no longer the superpower she was.
Where Do You Seek Your Soulmate? Online Dating is Failing Us All
After nine years of post-divorce dating, this single dad has some answers about finding love again.
Don’t be afraid to fall in love. Be afraid of not having the opportunity to explore your own heart during those moments when it is bursting with passion and joy, as well as the moments when it is breaking with loss and loneliness.
Dear Lover, I’ll Meet You Out There… Okay?
What's the problem with online dating apps? When you want to get serious about finding a long-term relationship.
Online dating is okay if you’re trying to maximize your potential reach. But don’t spend Sunday afternoon browsing dating profiles hoping to find a partner who is likely to be at a yoga class on a Sunday morning. Go out there and live your life.
Finding Joy as a Single Parent During the Holidays
We lose time with our kids after divorce, the holidays can add stress to the loneliness.
I like to be on top of the world, as most of us do, but I haven’t done very well in the past when I sink into “maintenance mode” rather than aspirational mode. What I learned from my last stumble is that I AM MY OWN WORST ENEMY.
The First Holiday Season As a Single Dad: Stepping Into the Void
The holidays are hard for some of us, single parents have a special hollowness when their kids are away.
How do you reconcile being removed from the typical family Christmas? How do you deal with the 22 days a month that you have little or no contact with your children? How do you afford ANY Christmas presents when you’re struggling to buy gas?
A Rebirth of the Compassionate Parent & Divorced Dad Advocate
Single dad remembers the loss of his kids in the divorce. Ten years later, it still hurts.
I am pro-mom, but I’m more pro-family. If we agree to have kids it’s 50/50 forever. Anything less, and I would not have agreed to have kids in the first place.
How Are We Cheating On Our Partners Every Day?
Let's get real about what we are focused on in our relationships.
I think what this writer is trying to express is that our daily actions and acts of affection are important and should be focused with loving attention. And further, that our social media obsessions can often entertain us at the expense of connecting with our partners.
I’ve Lost My Fire: How to Regain a Passionate Life
Moods often trigger my cravings. How taking a break has given me a new approach to a healthier life.
I believe, that every action we take is either towards our goals or away from them. This is true in relationships. This is true in our work. And this is an essential lesson to contemplate when you are trying to restoke the fire in our belly.
Finding My Authentic Self: Can You See the Real Me?
Does my greying hair define me to the world? How do I feel about aging? How do I find my authentic self?
I am lovable just as I am. I am lovable with brown hair or grey hair. I am loved at my current weight and even when I’m heavier. I am loved just as I am. I am not sure I believe all of what I just wrote, but I’m on my own journey to get there.