One practical way to rid our families and schools of shame.
Dr. Brené Brown says that shame is a major management strategies in both our classrooms and our homes. While many children have enough self-esteem to just get pissed off when they are publicly shamed, for many other children public shaming only adds a inner-voice that says “I’m stupid.” This why Dr. Brown has instituted a no-name-calling policy in her house—even self naming. So when she hears her son say “I’m so stupid, I can’t figure out this math homework,” she says that he can say “This is hard” or “I need help” but he can’t say he is stupid for not getting it. Its another lesson in remembering that me how we communicate with others and with ourselves has the power to build up and the power to tear down.