This is a comment by Mel on the post “Rihanna’s a Daughter and a Human and Loves a Man…And We’re Surprised“.
Trigger warning for sexual abuse.
Mel talks about how childhood trauma lead to unhealthy sexual experiences and self-hatred later in life.
Furious George commented:
“Trauma in youth becomes attraction in adulthood.”
You just shook my world with the veracity of that statement. When I was young I was molested repeatedly by my uncle, and when I was 18 as well as 20 and 21 I placed myself in situations where men violated me. Part of me hated myself and the other part of myself felt like I could never have as heightened a sexual experience as I did with someone who abused me. Even though I would go through the steps of post-trauma repeatedly, a part of this experience became alluring and attractive.
I know I’m a stranger, but I wanted you to know how powerful and insightful your words actually were.
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