No one ever warns you how hard getting into a meaningful relationship can be. On the other hand, while life can be challenging, dating and relationships do not have to be. Meeting the right person takes time. More than anything, meeting someone that is into you requires knowledge as to why people choose to date the people they do.
Women are not as complicated as men would like to think. In fact, when it comes to dating and relationships men and women want the same things: love, respect, and acceptance. They only differ in the path they take to attain what they require in a relationship.
If you are a single guy that is not meeting any dating prospects, here are 3 reasons why the women may not interested in dating you:
- Technology: If you are looking for love, stop texting and start talking. While technology makes it easier for us to connect with anyone, anywhere in the world. Technology also makes it harder to connect with the people closest to us. The biggest complaint most women have when it comes to dating is that men do not call. Many women believe if you do not make the time to hear her voice, you won’t make the time to get to really know her.
- Sex: Women enjoy sex as much as men do. However, while men can separate love and sex, most women prefer to be in love with the person they are having sex with. This is not to say that men ONLY want sex when it comes to dating and relationships. However, if you are looking to create and sustain a meaningful relationship, then think with the big head instead of the “little head.” If you want to prove that you are worthy to date, then do not press a woman into having sex with you until you have both gotten to know each other. Nothing turns a woman off more than a man that seems too anxious and too horny. Slow down! Take your time and get to know this woman. Besides, by getting to know her, the bonus will be sex with someone you really
- Unrealistic Expectations: I am all about aiming high, however are you aiming too high when it comes to dating? If you’re goal is to date a super model, but you are a heavyweight couch potato, then perhaps you need to get a bit more realistic in your dating goals. Sure, there may be overweight guys living at home with their moms who date super models. But, how many? Those may be more “urban legends,” when people often refer to the few instances that someone achieved the unattainable. On the other hand, if you are dating a woman that is below your standards just so you can fit in or feel comfortable, that is just as bad as trying dating a woman out of your league. In the dating game it is best to date “by two.” For example, wherever you perceive you are (i.e. you’re a couch potato living at home with your mom) then perhaps date someone that is living home with mom, but volunteers at the animal shelter, and is a full-time student working on her Masters. Dating up “by two” allows you to aim high, but not too high, while staying in your lane with someone that inspires you to be your best by their actions.
There are a lot of great women out there looking for a great guy. However, the key is creating the opportunity to make a love connection. If you keep doing things your way, you might meet someone. But, if you are not meeting anyone new, be bold enough to try something new. More times than not, it is not something wrong with you, only your approach.
There is someone (or more than one) out there who is just right for you. Experiment with removing these easily fixable challenges. Break the mold and step out of your comfort zone. That one percent shift may be what takes your life to the tipping point of success in the often discouraging modern dating world.
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