Scientific study bolsters writer’s claims despite his wife’s doubts
Do women find men with children—especially babies—more attractive? This was a perception posed October 26 by writer Gint Aras in the Dads & Families section of the GMP, “Baby Brings Dad Unusual Attention from Beautiful Women.” Aras laments the small talk parenting clichés from strangers, “She’ll grow up so fast,” “Enjoy her now,” etc., but is surprised by the attention he and his baby girl are getting from women. Hot women.
Then, only days later, another striking beauty presented herself, this one younger, brunette, a stack of medical textbooks on her table. She made small talk about Kira’s cute hat and her snug sleeping bag. Then she flashed a smile and asked, “So…where’s mom?”
I made a point now to observe her smile, to memorize it, and I can say with confidence that a jury of homosexual Greeks would have skipped deliberation. Coquette! Frigid nuns would have pointed arthritic fingers: “That one’s making eyes.” Nabokov would have patted me on the back: Tell her your daughter’s mother died of typhus in Corfu.
The piece was funny and provocative. The comments ranged from the funny and provocative to the defensive and antagonistic. The most even-headed responses waxed impotently on the subjectivity of all things, from the male perspective to the affect of language choice.
Here’s a sampling:
…but it also could be that a lot of women don’t expect to see a father with a baby without the mother around, and they are genuinely curious as to why it’s only you.—Dave
That what always bothered me – you smile at any male…and almost without exception you see this annoying curiosity in their eyes.—Monika
I found my baby attracts a lot of old ladies.—Tim Chan
There is just something heart warming about a man taking care of a baby. And I think a lot of men can interpret the friendly attitude for flirting.—Erin
Serendipitously, one might say, this robust discussion was bolstered in a Psychology Today article that came out five days later, with this opening line: “Mate poaching is a robust phenomenon…”
Dr. Valerie Gordon goes on to report that “one sizable study found 90 percent of single women were interested in a man who they believed was taken, while a mere 59 percent wanted him when told he was single.”
Equally serendipitous, (or coincidental, depending on your opinion on it), Gint Aras is the new editor of the Marriage section of the GMP, and for his first post, he sought permission from Psychology Today and posted it in full. The comments on PT are equally contentious.
Could this be the rise of the DILF?