3 Steps To Immediately Improve Your Relationship

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I don’t care if you didn’t start it. I don’t care if you have a point to prove. Stop, remember that you love the person, and take responsibility for the mishap.

3 Steps To Immediately Improve Your Relationship

Step 1: You have to stop and pause, to see what’s going on.

It sounds like common sense, and yet, in a heated conversation (or argument), often no one stops. The snowball of what happens next is a series of reactionary statements (or worse) that someone is going to regret. If you don’t pause when you first notice the problem, you will have a bigger problem than the original miscommunication.

Step 2: While you are pausing, remember that you love this person.

Even if you’re incredibly pissed now, overall, you love them. Even if you are separating, you once loved them. Even if you are hurt…. You get my point. You love them. They are worthy of respect. You are worthy of speaking from your heart instead of going forward sounding as if you do not care about the person you are speaking to. Check yourself.

Step 3: Take responsibility.

Your ego just may not like this piece of advice. That’s okay. Your ego is what got you into this mishap in the first place.

What would it be like to take responsibility in the form of admitting misunderstanding? Not so bad, right? You could also take responsibility for a disrespectful tone, a raised voice, or an assumption.

Take some form of responsibility, and slide in a statement of positive intent.

It sounds like a genuine, I’m sorry. I think I may have said something that created misunderstanding. I want to try to understand and re-establish the connection. You will find the tension of the miscommunication instantly diffused.

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