“Being attractive lasts more than being pretty.” — Iris Apfel
Rinah has that “je ne sais quoi” that is reminiscent of the main character in a 1960’s romantic movie.
I look at Rinah and everything she is screams elegance and class. I am proudly associated with her and will tell anyone who cares to listen that we are friends.
Rinah has always been attractive to others, men and women alike.
She has never quite understood why, but it seems like people are naturally drawn to her. It could be her warm smile, her kind nature, or maybe just her playful personality — but whatever it is, she is grateful for it. We all are.
And it is not a reserve for only her friends.
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Attractiveness extends to both platonic and romantic relationships
Rinah met the love of her life, Solomon, 15 years ago. She was just a freshman in college but she says in her heart, she knew.
Solomon was different from any other person she had ever met before; he seemed genuine and honest. They started talking and quickly became friends. Over time, their friendship blossomed into something more until they finally decided to get married.
Throughout their marriage, Rinah and Solomon have continued to be attracted to each other in the most wonderful way possible. And also continue to attract other people.
They still can’t quite explain it, but they know that they have that power that makes them attractive to others. Both as individuals, but also as a couple.
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Are you attractive?
The answer to that is a resounding yes!
You might not realize it, but there are certain traits that make you secretly attractive to other people.
For example, kindness is always attractive, whether it’s in the form of a compliment or a helpful gesture. A sense of humor is another trait that can make you more attractive, as it shows that you’re able to enjoy life and relax in any situation.
And of course, confidence is always attractive. If you’re comfortable in your own skin, it shows that you’re secure and content with who you are, and that’s a quality that others will find irresistible.
The bottom line is that we all have qualities that make us attractive to other people, even if we may not realize it. Whether it’s our sense of humor or our ability to empathize with others, these traits can make us more desirable partners, friends, and colleagues.
So if you want to be more attractive to others, focus on developing these qualities. They’ll make you more attractive than anything else.
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Here are five traits that make you secretly attractive to other people:
1. A positive attitude.
I loved this article by Sorina Raluca Băbău
Whether we realize it or not, we are constantly emitting energy based on our thoughts and emotions. This energy is like a signal that attracts others who are vibrating at a similar frequency.
So, if we want to attract positive people into our lives, it is important to maintain a positive attitude.
One of the most attractive things about a person is their ability to see the glass half full instead of half empty. People who are optimistic and have a positive outlook on life are more fun to be around and tend to be more successful in achieving their goals.
If you’re someone who always looks on the bright side, don’t be surprised if you find yourself being drawn to others who share your positive outlook.
People who radiate positivity are usually more fun to be around, and they tend to be more successful in life as well.
Additionally, positive people are often more forgiving and have an easier time letting go of grudges.
On the other hand, negative people tend to be more judgmental and critical, which can make them difficult to get along with. With a negative person, you might even start to wonder if they secretly dislike you.
How to adapt this:
So, if you want to make yourself more attractive to others, focus on maintaining a positive attitude. It will not only make you more pleasant to be around, but it will also help you attract more success into your life.
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2. Empathy.
I loved this article by gAbriel Siregar
The ability to empathize with others is another trait that makes you attractive to others.
People who can understand and share the feelings of those around them tend to be more compassionate and make for better friends, lovers, and employees.
If you’re able to put yourself in someone else’s shoes, chances are you’ll find yourself being attracted to someone who can do the same. When you are empathizing with someone, you are effectively seeing the world from their perspective.
This can help to build a strong connection with the other person, as they feel understood and valued.
I strongly believe that being able to empathize with another person is one of the most attractive qualities anyone can possess.
When you are with a non-empathetic person, you tend to feel neglected in the relationship.
Choose to become more empathetic.
Moreover, empathy also allows you to be more compassionate towards others, and this is always attractive. After all, who doesn’t want to be with someone who truly cares about them?
How to adapt this:
If you want to make yourself more attractive to others, start by trying to empathize with them more. It will make a world of difference.
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3. A good sense of humor.
I loved this humorous article by Captain Obvious
A good sense of humor is one of the most sought-after traits in a partner.
After all, laughter is the best medicine, and who doesn’t want a partner who can make them laugh?
If you’ve got a wit that makes people chuckle, you’re sure to find yourself being attracted to someone who appreciates your sense of humor.
A good sense of humor also shows that you’re able to laugh at yourself, you’re confident and you’re not afraid to take risks.
People with a good sense of humor are also usually more relaxed, making them more fun to be around. If you can make someone laugh, they’re more likely to be drawn to you and want to spend time with you.
How to adapt this:
If you’re looking to attract someone, try cracking a few jokes and see where it gets you!
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4. Confidence.
I loved this article by Elizabeth Karls
Nothing is more attractive than confidence — the ability to love oneself unconditionally and know one’s worth.
People who are confident in themselves radiate an aura of attractiveness that is hard to resist. If you’re a confident person, chances are you’ll find yourself being drawn to someone who loves themselves just as much as you love yourself.
People who lack confidence often seek out relationships in an attempt to feel better about themselves, but this usually ends up backfiring because their partner can sense their insecurity and it ends up driving them away.
On the contrary, when you carry yourself with confidence, it shows that you are secure in who you are and that you are comfortable in your own skin.
People are drawn to others who exude confidence because it is a sign of inner strength and security.
Confident people are also usually more successful in life, which can be another appealing quality.
How to adapt this:
If you want to be more attractive to others, start by working on your confidence. The more self-assured you become, the more magnetizing you will be to those around you.
So, if you’re looking for a lasting relationship, it’s important to make sure that you’re confident in yourself first and foremost.
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5 . Honesty
I loved this article by Saalim Aslam
Being honest is one of the most important traits in any relationship — romantic or otherwise. People who are honest tend not only build trust with those around them but also earn respect.
If you’re looking for a lasting relationship, look for someone who is honest with you about their thoughts and feelings — even if it means having difficult conversations at times.
Honesty really is the best policy when it comes to attraction and relationships.
When you’re honest with yourself and others, it shows that you’re comfortable in your own skin and confident in who you are.
People can sense that, and it’s a quality that they find irresistible.
Being honest also means being open and vulnerable, two things that can be hard to do but are so important in any kind of relationship.
When you’re able to let down your guard and be yourself, it allows others to do the same, and that’s when the real connection happens.
How to adapt this:
Next time you’re feeling attracted to someone, remember that being honest is the best way to let them know you’re interested. It might not always be easy, but it’s always worth it.
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Final Thoughts
Being attracted to someone is more than just their looks. Although looks may be the first thing that draws you in, it’s their personality and how they make you feel that keeps you interested.
These five traits make someone secretly attractive to others — a positive attitude, empathy, a good sense of humor, confidence, and honesty — are some of the most attractive qualities a person can possess.
If you have even one or two of these traits, you are sure to be secretly attractive to those around you.
Embrace your inner qualities, and let them shine. Focus on being your best self and let your true personality shine through. After all, there’s nothing more attractive than being genuine.
And remember, confidence is key!
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And Now Your Thoughts
I want to hear all about your perspective on this topic. Please let us chat in the comments section.
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Thank you for reading.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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