Do these three tips consistently if your love your wife.
You keep on wondering what is it that has caused your mom hate your wife. She tells you that there are so many other women out there who are more deserving of her beloved son. You, being the good husband, defend your wife and talk about all the good qualities but your mother will hear none of it.
You have to remember that your mother is not just your mother but your wife’s mother as well. Daughters-in-law have to face the harsh reality that they will never beat their husbands’ moms.
We have to remind our wives that there is never any competition between the wife and the mother-in-law. And once the wife starts to feel the existence of competition, that is the day that she has lost. She will never win.
You and your wife are a team that is why it is important that you make it clear to her what pleases your mother. Do not let your wife go blindly into the lioness’s den. Unless of course, you hate your wife as well. Here are three basic tips that will help your wife gain your mother’s approval.
Tip 1 – Let your wife do a few errands for your mother every now and then.
Examples would be like doing a little grocery for the mother and let your wife bring them over ALONE. Let them have some wife and mother quality time. This is a great chance for them to know each other and gives your mother the feeling that she has gained a daughter instead of losing her son.
Tip 2 – Tell the wife to call your mother or text her just to check on her.
Mothers appreciate the thoughtfulness. How frequent? At least twice a month.
Tip 3 – You should also take extra effort and not just your wife.
Call or better yet, spend time with your mother without the wife and the kids. Remember, you are still her son, and she loves the feeling that she is still important to you. I have heard so many stories from mothers who complain that their sons have completely forgotten about them. The only times they are remembered are during the holidays and most of the times it would be a five-minute awkward phone call which includes the kids screaming for gifts.
Bonus Tip – Do not act like a dictator when your mother comes over to visit you.
There is no need to shout at the wife or give endless orders of things to do. She would only see this as you pretending and mothers do not want to see their sons as abusive husbands.
You may be the main cause why your mother will hate or love your wife. Be cautious of your actions and inactions because your mother will see all of these as caused by your wife. If she feels that you have been treating her better, she will link this to your wife. Do these three tips consistently if your love your wife.
Photo: Flickr/ Don Harder