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There is great emotional freedom in living and standing in your truth. “I think”…”I can’t”…”I don’t know”…they are all lies.
There are 7 main lies we tell ourselves. The 7 Lies are very much a part of Lack Language. Lack of self-worth and self-confidence results in lack mentality.
The 7 Lies We Tell Ourselves
- I can’t
- I don’t know.
- I think.
- I wish.
- I should.
- I have to.
- I hope.
Stop lying to yourself and start living for yourself.
When I worked as a Special Education teacher in a Psychiatric Day Treatment Center with young school age children, I would ask my students why they had done a certain behavior, like hit another student. The common answer was, “I don’t know.” Which is one of the 7 lies we tell ourselves. When I would get that response, I would say,
If you don’t know why you did it, you will do it again.
I would continue by asking them questions in order to help them process their answer. It was miraculous to see how well that worked; eventually, they would be able to give me a reason without needing help processing.
During the 3 1/2 years I worked there, I learned to say, “You get to (do the assignment or another requirement).” If I used a phrase like, “You have to (do the assignment or another requirement),” a few of my students would explode in anger and hit me or one of their peers. When I changed the verbiage and said, “You get to,” there was a calm response as if it was a privilege or I was giving them a present.
I have used the same verbiage to keep myself from procrastinating. Instead of telling myself, “You have to bathe the dogs today.” I say, “You get to bathe the dogs today.” I have two Shih Tzu pups and even though they go to the groomer every other month, I choose to bathe them in between appointments.
Replacing the 7 Lies Begins with Choice
- “I can’t” shifts to “I can.”
- “I don’t know” shifts to “I know.”
- “I think” shifts to “As far as I know” or “I believe.”
- “I wish” shifts to “I will.”
- “I should” shifts to “I choose to.”
- “I have to” shifts to “I get to.”
- “I hope” shifts to “I trust.”
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I “should” on myself at the point of death. Say what? Yep, I experienced the other side of death on the delivery table while having my son, my firstborn child. At one point during the delivery I thought I was looking up at the mirror in the delivery room, then I realized I was actually in the mirror looking down at everyone in the delivery room, including myself. My son had arrived and even though I felt blissful and calm where I was I said to myself, “Maybe I ‘should’ go back down there, ‘I think’ that baby needs me.” I did just that and my wonderful bundle of joy was placed in my arms. Two weeks later I was told that my heart had stopped during the delivery and they truly had ‘lost me’ on the table, so to speak.
So, as I was saying, I ‘should’ on myself at the point of death and I also used one of the 7 lies as well: “I think.”
Definitely imperfect in my imperfection. Knowing what I know now, I have developed noticing skills so I can be fully present and shift what no longer serves me. With noticing skills, we can see that we are actually perfect in imperfection. We learn so much from our imperfections and imperfect situations. The human life is imperfect. The spiritual life is divine perfection. Embodiment brings the two together.
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Clarity and Other Inconvenient Truths
In a state of compulsive vagueness, clarity and truth are routinely rejected as being false or wrong or unnecessary because of the feelings they invoke.
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