Wondering why she always has a headache?
The saying, “Happy wife, happy life” couldn’t be more true. Unfortunately, many women aren’t happy. And when women aren’t happy, men aren’t going to get what they want from them.
Yet, this is an easy problem to fix. If your woman feels loved and listened to, it could change your life for the better.
Here are 7 ways to make your woman feel loved.
Set aside time to listen to her problems
There’s nothing more hurtful than a partner who walks away from you and doesn’t listen. Men and women want to be heard.
When I was alone with four children all day, I couldn’t wait for my husband to get home. I longed for a warm embrace, and to fill him in on the events of the day. I couldn’t wait to talk to him.
When he didn’t take the time to talk, it made me feel unloved. Gradually, it drove a wedge between us and we grew further apart. This definitely contributed to the demise of our relationship.
When you listen to someone, they feel heard. They feel loved. Someone is in their corner and cares. Don’t give the silent treatment, and don’t shut them out.
Don’t dismiss her struggles as unimportant. They are as important as yours are.
Build her trust by knowing she can count on you to be there, listen, and care. Sharing your thoughts, concerns, and feelings builds intimacy in your marriage through communication.
Listen to what she wants. You may be surprised. She may want more physical touch and affection. You’ll never know if you’re not actively engaging and communicating with her. The worst thing you can do is ignore her.
What woman is going to feel passion for someone who pushes them aside and ignores them all the time?
Do your equal part at home
Women everywhere are frustrated with the men in their lives.
A survey from Gallup showed that even now, working mothers were still more likely to do more housekeeping tasks at home. This includes most of the childcare.
After she arrives home from her job, there will be numerous chores she has to do. The children will demand her attention. She’ll have to make dinner, clean up, and then check homework and get them to bed.
If a husband does half these chores, she’ll be less exhausted. If the two of them work together with their children’s nighttime routine, they’ll likely fall into each other’s arms at the end of the night.
Both of you should be contributing equally to the finances, child care, and chores. Don’t let your partner be burdened.
She’ll appreciate that she’s not doing all the work alone, and won’t be too exhausted to give you what you need.
Give her time alone if she needs quiet
This is the fantasy of many women. They just want time alone to themselves, where they’re not constantly interrupted by household chores and children. They want time alone where they don’t have to take care of everyone else.
Next time you want to treat her to a special occasion, try this:
Take over at home and send her away to a girl’s spa weekend. Another option is to book her one night in a hotel room alone, where she can relax in peace. There should be no interruptions while she’s there unless there is a dire emergency. Interruptions would defeat the purpose of one peaceful and quiet night.
She’ll thank you for it.
Take her to her favorite places
If your woman loves to travel and wants to share a romantic vacation with you, why wouldn’t you go? No job or situation is more important than spending quality romantic time with your partner.
There’s nothing sadder than staring at a gorgeous view, and wishing your partner was with you.
The job can wait. These special times exploring the world with your significant other are times you’ll always cherish and remember. These will be the memories you both hold onto during difficult times.
If she loves going out to dinner, treat her to her favorite places. If money is an issue, there are low-budget options.
Take out is great, but there is something special about taking someone you love out. It shows you are proud of your partner and want to be seen in public together. Plus it gets her away from the hectic life at home.
It also gives you both uninterrupted time to focus solely on each other.
Show her how much you appreciate her
Friends complain to me all the time about how their husband never compliments them. They’re starved for some words of appreciation.
If she looks beautiful in her new dress- tell her. If she did something nice for you, say thank you.
Don’t just throw a store-bought bouquet on the table and think it will make up for rude words and all the times you argued. She wants you to pull her in your arms and give her a sincere apology. Loving words will mean much more than a cheap bouquet.
Take responsibility if you did something wrong. And don’t blame everything that goes wrong on her.
Withhold the criticism and be generous with your praise. Compliments will make her feel loved.
Be supportive of her interests
There’s nothing more wonderful than to have a supportive partner. It makes a difference. Men love to have their wives be their number one fan. You always see women dragging their friends out to see their husband’s band.
It’s the same way for women. Express an interest in her work and hobbies.
If she’s a writer, discuss her articles with her. If she loves rescuing animals, be supportive. You don’t have to love everything she does or fake enthusiasm. Yet, take an interest sometimes. Go to the dance recital she’s in. She’ll smile to see you in the front row.
When you want to buy her a gift, buy her a gift related to her favorite hobbies. She’ll love that you put in the extra effort to pay attention to her interests.
It only takes a small effort on your part. And she’ll appreciate your support.
Always be kind
Every couple argues. Yet vicious words sting and linger long after an argument is over. Some people can never get over how badly a partner made them feel.
If you are out in public, don’t humiliate her by ogling other women. That will make her lose her trust in you. Treat her like she’s special to you.
Choose to be kind. If you’re going to cause damage with your actions, remove yourself temporarily from the situation. If you’re angry, it’s better to walk away for a moment and to return when you calm down.
When people treat their partners like they are nothing to them and only point out their flaws, it will slowly destroy a relationship.
A partner that’s been treated like they don’t matter, and they’re not valued, is not want to get more intimate.
Say kind words. Withhold criticism. Treat her like you’d want her to treat you, and expect the same in return. You both deserve to be seen in your relationship.
Remember, a happy wife does mean a happy life.
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This post was previously published on Hello, Love.
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