The majority of people tend to gravitate toward one or two particular flavors of ice cream. Even though there are a lot of flavors, many people gravitate toward the ones they are used to.
It may not seem like much of a risk to try a new flavor of ice cream, but for some people, it may feel like venturing into uncharted territory without knowing how it will taste or whether they will enjoy it.
If a person is willing to try new flavors, they might be surprised to find that they like them just as much or even better than their favorite flavor.
It can be enlightening to gain insight into the culture and experiences of another person. You might discover that some of his customs appeal to you more.
If you stick to your “type,” you might miss out on a lot of people who could teach you something.
According to research, numerous people also have a particular type of person they typically date. You have a “type” when you keep dating the same kind of person over and over again.
A “type” can refer to:
Physical characteristics as well as certain personality traits that are shared by all partners (like being creative, spontaneous, or outgoing). These personality traits be a reason why you keep falling in love with the same person over and over again without success.
Dating someone of your “type” is simple and easy. Additionally, it restricts your selection of men and keeps them limited.
Instead, when you don’t consider your type in selecting whom to date, the relationship you want and deserve will arrive sooner than you think, that is when you are crystal clear on your values and concentrate on how a man treats you and makes you feel.
When you date someone who isn’t your type, you can reap these benefits.
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1. You may learn that what you want might not be what you need.
If you haven’t given people who aren’t your type a chance in the past, you might be surprised to find that some of the qualities you thought you wanted in a partner are not necessarily what you need. For instance, you might normally be attracted to outgoing partners but end up falling in love with an introverted partner you wouldn’t normally.
2. To broaden your perspective.
It can be enlightening to gain insight into the culture and experiences of another person. You might discover that some of his customs appeal to you more. If you stick to your “type,” you miss out on a lot of people who could teach you something.
3. You may learn something new about yourself
You might go out of your comfort zone and discover something surprising or new about yourself as a result of dating someone who isn’t your type. This is one of the benefits of dating someone who isn’t your type. You might also learn about new pastimes or activities from this person that you didn’t think you’d like.
4. To get rid of the judgment.
If you place a higher value on certain characteristics like income level, education, and pedigree than others, you are judging those characteristics as superior and discounting many men who do not possess them.
Going outside of your comfort zone can be risky, but think about what hasn’t worked out so far in your dating life: the right man hasn’t shown up.
5. To ensure that you do not miss out on your ideal partner.
Personality, compatibility, and chemistry can transform a “not my type” into the love of your life. If your “type” is 6 feet, blonde hair, and blue eyes, you can’t see the hundreds of good men around you because of the old saying “judging a book by its cover.”
Especially for women, may not find qualities in a man that they like, but over time, they’ll find him more physically attractive.
6. You may become more relaxed in your dating technique
Even though things don’t work well with someone who isn’t your type, it can assist you to learn how to be more flexible and open to new experiences with people who might not be your type but could have the potential for the long-term.
7. You may learn that your interest in a potential partner can grow over time
You might discover that your attraction to a potential partner can change over time Just as your attraction to one person can change over time, so can your attraction to other people.
As attraction has grown naturally over time, some of the strongest romantic ties will form, and this will allow you to get to know the other person without feeling pressured or distracted by the physical chemistry. So therefore not having an immediate attraction can work in your favor.
This can enable you to feel excited when dating a new person and boost your chances of developing a lasting relationship with them.
8. To learn more about your personality type.
Are you drawn to particular personality traits? Think back to your previous relationship and consider the qualities that initially drew you to the other person. Make an effort to rectify the situation if the characteristics you are drawn to are hindering your growth into your full potential.
Take away.
Use this newfound wisdom in your next relationship by being aware of how other personality types complement or hinder you.
Consider the possibility that you are not compatible with your “type.” That is you ought to look beyond the familiar. If you don’t try, you won’t know!
In Conclusion.
Dating a person who doesn’t fit your personality can be a great learning opportunity that can help you understand your wants and needs in a partner better and possibly lead to a long-term, lasting relationship.
Consider giving someone a chance the next time you’re tempted to dismiss them because they don’t fit your typical personality type. You might be surprised by what you learn.
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Thanks for reading!
Disclaimer:
This post is only for informational purposes. And should not be construed as a substitute for psychological or professional guidance. If you have any questions about your situation, you should always consult a psychologist or a mental health professional
Sources|Citations|References:
Park, Y., and G. Macdonald, Personality similarities between former and current romantic partners’ decisions. 116(26), 12793–12797,
Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. DOI: 10.1073/pnas.1902937116
https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1902937116
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