My nine-year-old daughter woke up Wednesday morning like never before, bright-eyed and ready to start her morning. She sat up in her bed with the biggest smile on her face and said: “Mommy do girls rule?” For the first time, I did not know what to say. I wasn’t prepared to give her news that I knew would shatter her entire afternoon. I answered, “yes baby girls rule, but Clinton didn’t win.” She laid back down on her pillow and placed the covers over her head. I could hear her began to sigh and cry. Through the sniffles she asked, “do I have to go to school, I don’t want to go to school sad.” All I could do was stand there and listen. “So Mommy, does this mean that girls can’t be a president?”
I’ve had answers about Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, and the Easter Bunny. Wednesday morning I was numb, I was shocked and unprepared to handle the outcome of the disappointment. I am her protector, her supermom, her snuggle bunny when she can’t sleep at night. Since Tuesday, I’ve felt like I let her down, a bad mother; one who couldn’t say don’t worry sweetie, everything is going to be okay. The worst feeling in the world is to see her hurt and realize that there is absolutely nothing that her father and I can do about it.
I guess my daughter knew that I was struggling to explain how someone she’s watched say such bad things time and time again would be her new Commander in Chief, she looked at me and said, “mom I guess it’s better that he won.” Why’d you say that I asked? “Because I was actually afraid of what people would do if he didn’t.” I must admit, I was shocked by her response. However, that moment I realized that she was not only aware of more than I’d realized but also she was going to process this whole ordeal on her own time in her own way.
I’m a mom, not God. I can’t fix nor solve all of my children’s issues. But I can remind them of how amazing they are and how proud I am of them as young girls. I can inform them that not all men think women are pigs or believe that it is okay to assault women sexually. I will also remind them daily that we are ALL EQUAL. In some beautiful way we are all family and deserve to be treated with respect!